I have been with my partner for 3 years now and we have had the ongoing problem if her not having feeling externally in her vagina and breast. She says that I'm actually the first person she had let touch her inside and let have oral sex with. But when I have tried to give oral she says she has little it no sensation externally. Please help! I don't know if it's just her not wanting to feel submissive and she is not in touch with her feminism it what, but she claims she is willing to work on it. Any advice?

First how old are you both...

And why hasn't she been to a doctor.

I'm 31 and she is 27 and I have tried to get her to see the doctor but she is stubborn.

If she is being truthful about not having any feeling or very little, then she needs to see a doctor. Before looking at anything else, she needs to make certain that her body is in working order.

I'll second that external numbness isn't a normal condition, ever... on any part of ones body. She really needs to see a doctor to be sure its not a symptom of something more serious.

Seeing a doctor would be a good idea.

It isn't unusual for a woman not to have sensitive breasts. It ranges from extremely sensitive to not sensitive at all. I have had girl friends that I could almost get to Orgasm with their breasts and others that just had no feeling.

With regards to downstairs, i.e. oral sex, I have to ask if you know what you're doing. It can be trying to find out the right way to do this particular deed.

Can she get herself off? Is she willing to give directions to you while you work on her?Has her previous men been able to get her off?

Talk and communication is key.