Parents having sex in the same room as their children

Obviously it's probably not a positive thing for the child. However, I seriously doubt they're any laws against it. Such a law would be intrusive to families. I'm sure you could talk to a social worker if you are that concerned. However, I wouldn't suggest it as a first step. I'd talk to your daughter and her husband about it first.

I saw a similar question asked in here and a Christian expert said that in most states there are laws against it. I have confronted my daughter about it and she got upset. I was using the toilet at the time and I couldn't help but hear them. I realize that as married people that they have a right to have sex, but that they should not be doing it with their children in the room. I'm really surprised it didn't kill the mood for both of them. That would have done it for me.

I don't know what that expert said, but no, there are no laws against this. One might stretch this as an endangerment to the welfar of a child, but it would be a stretch.

And how is anyone going to know about it? You going to turn your daughter in? The only way this would become an issue is if its part of a pattern of neglect of the children.

I would try to turn this around. I would assume your daughter and her family are experiencing hard times that have resulted in them moving in with you and sharing a room. So I would make some offers to watch your grandchildren so they can have some alone time. I would also see what can be done to expand the living quarters or maybe get some screens to separate the kids part of the room.

Your daughter and her husband are entitled to physical intimacy. Especially if they are experiencing some hard times. Forcing them to be chaste will just put an additional strain on their marriage.

This room is small and there is no room for dividers. Adding on to the house is not an option as we are low income ourselves. Their bedrom is right next to the bathroom as is my bedroom and they can't help but be heard when someone goes in the bathroom whether it's to use the toilet or whatever. I don't have a problem with them having sex, but they need to do it at a time when no one is up or no one is home and moving around in the house; I sure don't want to hear it. If I have to go to the bathroom real bad, I am certainly not going to wait until they are done to do so. I could watch them, but I do more than the average grandparent does in the way of babysitting and doing things for my grandbabies, a lot more. Whatever happened to my house, my rules? I will not have them corrupting my granddaughters. I honestly don't see how they could be in the mood for sex with one of their babies in there anyway. That sure would kill the mood for me.

I notice you didn't give any explanation as to why they are living with you.

I'm sure you are a helping and concerned grandmother. But I do believe you are making way too much of this. I seriously doubt that they are close to corrupting your granddaughters.

While I agree with the my house, my rules sentiment, rules, in such a situation need to be tempered with common sense.

My son-in-law lost his full time lumberyard job at the end of July and 2 months later they were kicked out of their apartment. He is now working nights at the local Walmart, 28 hours a week which is not enough for them to afford their own place. It's not just my granddaughters that I don't want exposed to that. I don't want to hear it, either, and if I have to go to the bathroom, I am going to go. They have a right to have sex, but their timing is lousy. Common sense should tell them that having sex during the day is not a good idea when there are not only their babies here, but 3 other people as well- me, my hubby and my 30 year old autistic son. It's not fair for us to have to restrict ourselves to the front part of the house while they are doing the deed. You are not answering my question. How can they be in the mood for sex with their kids in the room? It would be a mood killer. I am not making too much out of this. My hubby also agrees that they shouldn't be having sex with their babies in the room.

To answer your question, people have been having sex in the same room with small children for thousands of years. It's doesn't really require much explanation. If both parties are motivated, they just do it. It's possible that your daughter is inhibited but giving into your son in law. You'd have to ask her. But that's not really at issue. What is going on inside their heads isn't really your business at this point. I don't think the 18 month old is even going to remember this when she is older and it will only be a big deal to the extent you make it one.

What I want to ask you is, if the son is working nights and you don't want him and your daughter to have sex during the day, what hours when he is home would be acceptable to you? Obviously, they can't have sex at night if he is not there. So what hours would work for everyone? If you can name some reasonable amount of time and then give them some privacy during those hours, wouldn't that satisfy everyone's needs? When is he home when you can tolerate the thought of them having sex?

I do not think they are harming the children - they are very young and will not remember. The good news is that through all their problems, your daughter and her husband still hava a healthy, loving relationship.

I understand the concept of your house, your rules. But I think you are over reacting to the situation. They are married adults. Do you think that in all her years in your house she never heard you and your husband?

Personally, I'd think that treating it like it was a good thing if a child sees it rather than a traumatic "OH MY GOD!" thing would give a child a healthier attitude towards sex.

Sounds to me like your issue isn't the kids seeing it, it's YOU having to hear it.