Parents having sex in the same room as their children

Well I'm married. Yes me and my husband have a healthy relationship. Part of that relationship, being marriage, is sex. I only think it's about 5-10% of it. But your daughter is married. Maybe this is something you need to comprise on with them. Give them a set time that they can have marital activities without you having to hear it.

If you are offended by them having martial relation in front of your grandchild... Why not offer to take her to the park and give them some time to have those marital relations.

If you are offended by it occurring with you in the house (which trust me I understand why you prefer not to... Once upon a time I heard my father in law and I rather of not) Since he does work nights maybe figure out a way for you and her to work out a system where if it's possible you can get out of the house. Not where she forces you out but lets you know a good while in advance. Or give them a few hours alone (like a set time for if they want to without you hearing them)

In texas there are too many rednecks for that law

But if it were you and your spouse or her in laws, and you 2 were having marital relations, you would probably feel a little violated by them hearing you.

Just look at the situation in reverse, like did your daughter ever walk in on you when you thought she was sleeping? Or what if she came home earlier than you planned and she heard you and you didn't know it.

It's a healthy natural act that most married couples that love each other do. Which depending on age, drive and a number of different factors the amount but still

It's too cold this time of year to take her to the park. She also has a 6 month old sister, and there is the matter of my 30 year old autistic son. A few hours is a bit much for them to be having sex at home. We have babysat them here when they have gone to the movies.

Like I said I live in texas... It's about 70 degrees here. But I'm sure there's the movies or something.

Yes a few hours is a bit much but i'll leave you and your judgement to set the times and activities. You are a very smart person and you know your situation better

She has never ever walked in on us having sex and anytime we did and heard someone close by we stopped what we were doing. We don't have sex anymore anyway as my hubby has ED due to diabetes. I did not purposely put my ear to the door and listen to what was going on in there. As I stated before, I was on the toilet tending to some urgent business that couldn't wait. Our walls are thin and I couldn't help but hear. My hubby and I always had sex at night and we were very careful about the noise we made. The few times we had sex during the day it was always when our kids were at school and my hubby was working the second shift.

Neither did I with my father in law... It happens

And she probably did try to be careful and didn't you heard her

He works at night and night shift throw things off a bit

Didn't know*

Sorry bad typing

Trust me my father in law is pretty much thought I was asleep and forgot I was in the military...

I wake up at 4 a.m. And do push ups and sit ups... It's my job and my rank in is private.. I'm a 68w (medic)

And because I wake up so early... Me and my husband when I'm on leave and I can see him do have some sort of marital relations. But after waking up that early it's more in the afternoon. My father in law is at work and yes we do have to be in your situation some of the time where it's 2 families of not the highest income and yea it's hard.

Me and my husband don't get to have marital relations often because he can't live with me right now but that will change.

What would you suggest they do?

The problems (did I mention all of them?) --
1. It's a small, crowded house
2. The children sleep in the same small bedroom as your daughter and her husband.
3. Your son-in-law works nights.
4. Your daughter and son-in-law are home together during the day.
5. Nearly everyone else is home during the day.
6. Sound carries easily in the house.
7. It's too cold to take the children outdoors during the day.
8. There's your autistic son to consider.
9. There is little privacy for anyone in the small house.
10. Money is in short supply for motel room or any alternate private place.

All that makes for a tough situation, doesn't it. I wouldn't expect a young, healthy couple to refrain from sex for very long, even under those conditions.

At one of the offices where I did counseling, the walls were thin, and clients did not always discuss problems rationally and quietly, so we set up white noise makers outside each door during sessions. If your grandchildren are that small and close together, your daughter and her husband must enjoy their sex life--and probably, like any young couple, can get in the mood pretty quickly. In your situation, a noise maker could be put inside the couple's bedroom, near the wall that adjoins the bathroom, or one could be set up in the bathroom and turned on when necessary.

As for their children watching--as children get older, they know their parents have sex. The children don't know completely what happens, but it can be reframed as a loving activity (some kids say mom and dad "wrestle" at night). We adult children don't even like to think of our aging parents (and even our aging children) indulging in such a thing as sex, but my three sibs and I have finally accepted the fact that our parents had sex at least four times during their 50-year marriage.

I agree with you Lioness...for the time being, I think you need to clean out your bedroom somewhat and put the children's bed in your bedroom for them. It is your house, your rules!

Also, I think it is a mistake for you to be angry about this when you confront your daughter. Just be matter of fact. It is your house! Your rules.

You may get much farther if you talk calmly to your son in law(daughter at store).....ask him how he thinks this problem can be solved. My mother in law always had much more success dealing with me than dealing with her son.

They need to get out of your house as soon as possible. Think of that day.

Good Luck!