im new so hi im steven. my title pretty much sums up my predicament. i am 19 and me and my fiancee(20) have been dating since i was in 9th grade. my problem is in the beginning. it seems that everything is fine, until an attempt of penetration of any sort. from what i gathered from others, the beginning may always hurt. but not like this. it is obviously so painful for her that it makes her want to stop completely. once past that, everything is fine. unless there is a slip, and i come out. then it starts all over again. even a finger insertion it terrible. lube is always used, i even tried arousal gels. and there is always enouph, ive gone to the point of using half a bottle at one to try to make it better, but no amount, small or large helps. its got to the point that i wont have sex unless she begs. i hate to put her in any amount of pain, so i try to avoid it.
PLEASE SOMEONE HELP.

hheath541

has she talked to her doctor about it?

artlady

She should see a gynecologist.
This is not normal.
The only solution is to find out what the medical problem is.
If it is not medical than it is psychological and that needs to be addressed as well.

artlady

Another reason is she is faking pain to refrain from having sex with you.Sorry that sounds harsh but it's a possibility.

shamrick1500

as much as i wish that were true.. i dont think so. she is usually the one to start, and gets mad at me when i try to avoid sex. she will eventually go. she says she wont, but i am trying my best.

shamrick1500

something i forgot to mention... is size a problem? i am 6'2'' and weigh 228. i am a big guy... she is 5'8'' and weighs about 90 pounds. as much as i wish this was not the issue, im afraid it might be. there no way i can fix it if it is the problem.

artlady

A womans vagina can easily accept up to a nine inch penis.

artlady

If she is 5 '8 and weighs ninety pounds,you should be concerned.
Thats way underweight,Is she anorexic?

shamrick1500

no... she eats like a horse. she eats more than i do.. she just doesnt seem to really gain weight.

artlady

Her weight is way off and maybe she is anorexic and that would explain many of her problems.
She must be skin and bones.