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Me and my fiance been together for 5yrs so far and before he always wanted sex and now we have sex like only 1 time per week.. I want more because he ends up end I don't if I give him oral sex I want him to return the favore but he doesn't and I feel unconfterbol asking him strait up for it..what do I do?
Try to casually try to get him to take care of your needs before you take care of his. Having had a couple Latin Girlfriends (actually different parts of Columbia) in the past I know some latin guys can be a bit lax as far as taking care of their women in this way. At least thats what they told me.
So next time instead of trying to get him to return the favor, have him take care of you first.....then you can return the favor after.
read She Comes First. then give it to him. if he doesnt respond in kind by taking care of you first, you have the answer that you will face the rest of your life.
he sounds bored and lazy. it happens.
is his health ok? stress? does he workout? any issues when you do have sex.... does he get you to orgasm? does he drink? smoke? health issues? are you on birth control?
and you are 5 years in... how old-ish? 20's? 30's? older?
Oral sex is pretty gross for both genders.
If you're not prepared to give, you lose the right to recieve. It might be awkward, but if you tell him that he won't get any til you do, it'll probably help.
You want more sex? Try completely ignoring him for a while. Remind him of what he's missing out on. Wear something sexy in front of him then pay him no attention whatsoever. Hopefully you'll get his attention, let it build for a while. Don't give in too easily. Make sure he knows he wants you completely before you give in. Make him want you as much as possible and don't pander to his wants.
People who are grossed out by oral sex have issues they need to resolve.
as much as i absolutely love giving and receiving oral and commonly recommend it as being useful in the bedroom (esp performed on the woman) i think a person can have an absolutely healthy sex life without it... just as one can prefer not to "deep french kiss" or one can prefer not to engage in anal sex or porn and still be connected and engaged to their lover. yes... you are leaving some great "tricks" in the bag, but that doesnt mean a person needs to straighten out their head.
i know a guy who just never wanted that performed on him. thought the act was disgusting. so he had a "mental hangup" about it. ok. i believe he also had a great time in the sack. if anything, he didnt need it as a crutch.
as much as i absolutely love giving and receiving oral and commonly recommend it as being useful in the bedroom (esp performed on the woman) i think a person can have an absolutely healthy sex life without it... just as one can prefer not to "deep french kiss" or one can prefer not to engage in anal sex or porn and still be connected and engaged to their lover. yes... you are leaving some great "tricks" in the bag, but that doesnt mean a person needs to straighten out their head.
i know a guy who just never wanted that performed on him. thought the act was disgusting. so he had a "mental hangup" about it. ok. i believe he also had a great time in the sack. if anything, he didnt need it as a crutch.
But still its indications of "issues". Just like people who won't do it with the lights on, in the butt, in anything but missionary, or refuse to use birth control for whatever reason, heck there are people grossed out by germs or broccoli.
Just not wanting to do something is different from being grossed out by it.
Smoothy is right I am not grossed out by giving my husband oral sex it is just not my favorite thing to do. I love how much it pleasures him so I do it once in a while and because its not often he loves it more.
If your going to marry this man you need to tell him what you want in the bedroom, the kitchen, the color you want your livingroom. All of these things are issue you'll need to talk about just chalk sex up as another topic. Let him know you like sex with him and you want it more, let him know you would like to try other things (this is when you toss in oral on me). Make it about him tell him he is the best kisser and you'd like to know what else he may be able to do with his mouth. Feed him ever line you know about how great he is and then turn it around in your favor. Men have large egos they love to have them stroked
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