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My girlfriend and I have been dating for a year, and I love her very much. We have a mutually fulfilling sexual relationship, and we communicate well. Recently, I told her of my fantasy of her performing oral sex on me and swallowing my sperm. She said that would be "gross," and has never brought me to climax during oral sex because she does not want me to come in her mouth. I perform oral sex for her, and I enjoy having her sexual fluids on my face and tasting them. We have discussed sexual fantasies before and have pleased each other very much. But she will still not accept my sperm in her mouth, My question is: what must I do or say to make her change her mind, to make her understand how much I wish she'd do this ?
First of all, if she is completely against it, why would you want to change her mind. We all have the right to say no to different things, especially sexual situations. Having said that, if she really wanted to please you she would not be so closed minded to it, especially just once. My advice, drop the subject and perhaps one day she may do it to surprise you. If she doesn't and you really want her to, then re-evaluate your relationship and decide what is more important to you.
another technique that she cn use is you tell her when you're going to ejaculate-she takes it from her mouth and using a well lubricated palm lightly caress and hold your glans (like it's in her wet mouth) and stroke it while you in her palm-it feels nice! and she doesn't get the "gross" sperm in her mouth.
another way is just let it go and get over it-she does every other thing a guy could want.
let her do you and don't tell her you are about to , just kiddng. my friend this is a fight that we rarely win. women are programmed at an early eage that oral sex is nasty. No woman brags about swallowing or catcing sperm in their mouth. so many women simply find this disgusting. Prostituters won't do this, so what i am trying to say is that usually if a woman has determined or been brainwashed into beliving that this is disgusting that is the end of it. It is not worth the fight.
Sorry but if she does not want to, you can not "make" her do it,
And honestly should not try, you should respect her feelings and not try to push limits the other is not willing. So you do it, great, that does not mean she is suppose to.
Be grateful for what you have. Don't push your luck, if she isn't into it then let it be. If she is completely against it then there isn't much you can do to change her mind.
If you think it's okay for you to try to change her mind on this, then it's absolutely okay for her to try to change your mind about receiving anal sex from a VERY large male who hasn't bathed in 3 weeks or brushed his teeth in a month. (Gross, huh? How do you think SHE feels now?)
On another (somewhat unrelated) note...ejaculate DOES sometimes taste pretty nasty. Guys who have that little fantasy should watch what they eat.
I am amazed at the number of people who think you should in some way continue trying to get her to "change her mind". If you really respected her you would accept what she has told you. Just because you shared your "fantasy" doesn't mean she has to fulfill it. And it doesn't mean she doesn't care about you.......... Yes, there are alot of women who dislike men to ejaculate in their mouths. It is a preference. As well..........as a woman who has done both men and women..........there is a difference. A woman's fluids are much thinner and you often just get a taste not an entire mouthful. There is usually a milder taste than men's semen. Semen also is thicker, stronger taste, and if taken when a guy comes.........shoots into the back of your mouth. Can be very gross. As Synnen stated............if she tried to change your mind and get you to accept anal sex with another man.........would you be okay with it? Sex should ALWAYS be consentual. And if you respected her you would let this go. Fantasy is the optimal word here. Not all fatasies get to become a reality. Cathy
E3317...i disagree with you, you make it sound like most women are pure little angels who frown upon sex, not the case, its all about prefference! (just my oppinion by the way).
i agree that you cannot force her to do anything she doesnt want to do, you have told her it turns you on and she is still not up for it, that should be the end of it.
i might fantasise that there is me and three guys, a tub of ice cream and a swimming pool but hell im never going to do it, its all in the mind.
if both partners want to fulfil a fantasy then thats fine,theres no pressure on either part, but in normal everyday circumstances fantasies are left as fantasies.
to back up my disagreement to what E3317 said...i have never in my life known personally any woman who was "programmed" not to like oral sex, yes some have tried it and didnt like it, some dont like the thought of it, but seriously you made it sound like we were robots pre programmed to be discusted by anything sexual!
It all depends on the woman, how she herself feels about certain things, if you are compatible sexually it has nothing to do with anyone telling us it is wrong to give head!
personally i could do it for hours and be very content.
i dont really know what to suggest to you, as you have done your part by telling her, if she isnt willing to do this one thing then just let it go and concentrate on the things she will do, i dont know, maybe talk about 69 where you will both be on the recieving end, then just let it go and try to accept that not everyone wants to do every possible thing in bed.
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