I can orgasm by myself by sitting on my tummy,with my feet close to each other and one finger in.My hand touches my so I understand I have all the reasons to orgasm.And I do. But when it comes to have an orgasm with my partner, I just can't.I feel some kind of constant pleasure which tends to go down not to get bigger.I tried many positions and it seems it's more pleasant when I'm on top and moving.But I feel I fail every time. What can I do to get closer at least or maybe even have it?Thanks

Choux

Great sexuality is a process of learning and growing....it starts with successful masturbation and body exploration.

YOu can't force yourself too fast when you are young....you may not be emotionally ready, or emotionally deep enough yet...and not to mention physiologically fully developed...mind and body and passion.

Make a well-balanced life for yourself....live and grow up.....expect a good sex life with full maturity.

simoneaugie

Can you assume the position you have described while your partner is beneath you?

ZoeMarie

when you're on top are you sitting straight up or are you leaning forward a little, or laying down completely?

stevetcg

First step would be to stop believing thats the only way you can have it. Second would be to relax. Dont focus so much on it and dont worry about it.

Try getting yours before starting on his.

Experiment, try everything. Twice. And relax.

Agirl19

Thank you all for trying to help. First, I must say that I am deeply emotionally involved and so I have been with all the partners I have been with. For me I am 99% sure it is either a psychological matter or physical.
Then, about my position...Simoneaugie, I cannot. My muscles are like a stone when I start feeling pleasure and if I do not mentain my position I lose the feelings. I have to move very little and I rather move my finger than my body. Then, on top, I have tried all three positions you described, ZoeMarie, and I tried strictly one of them or all three, one after another. Anyway,laying down completely seems to work best.
It is so frustrating though because I tried many tricks and positions and whatever I read or heard (I liked tracey cox best) and there was no effect. I don't want to complain I will try harder(Ihave all conditions-love, care, attention, passion, perfectly sized"tool" ,desire and lust).It is just that sometimes we get to a limit we cannot overpass unless we talk to someone. Anything you have to say say it.I will continue reading because I am interested in people that are interested in me.Thank again