I haven't had sex with boyfriend for almost 3 years. I do not understand it. I asked if he was not interested in me, he said no. I asked if he was interested or having sex with someone else, he said no. He just sits there and watch TV and play games and complain about everything. He has ocd so I think it may be that but not sure.

Then what do you two do, just sit around looking at each other?? Why are you together? Has he sought counselling for ocd or is he on meds?

Just what do you want us to say?

Going to be blunt here.

After 3 years and no sex, let alone no communication? Sounds like the beginng of the end here.

So unless you want to make your vibrator your soul mate, I suggest you say goodbye.

He doesn't want to help you understand, then he is not worth your time.

It sounds as if he gets more out of his games than you.

... just sayin'

On the one hand I think it's a beautiful thing what you're doing, staying with him even if he doesn't fulfil your needs, on the other, it may be that you either have low self esteem and don't want to try other guys or you're just as socially inadequate as he is and you like his company. For a healthy life, you'll need to see other people.

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Originally Posted by jessi72

On the one hand I think it's a beautiful thing what you;re doing, staying with him even if he doesn't fulfil your needs, on the other, it may be that you either have low self esteem and don't want to try other guys or you're just as socially inadequate as he is and you like his company. For a healthy life, you'll need to see other people.

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It's not a "beautiful thing" if it troubles the OP to the extent that she asks the question. This is most definitely NOT a joint decision.

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Originally Posted by jessi72

On the one hand I think it's a beautiful thing what you;re doing, staying with him even if he doesn't fulfil your needs, on the other, it may be that you either have low self esteem and don't want to try other guys or you're just as socially inadequate as he is and you like his company. For a healthy life, you'll need to see other people.

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Jessi, There is NOTHING beautiful about the OP's situation! Period.

So tell me... what's beautiful about it? The fact that there is NO communication what-so-ever, OR that he would rather play video games, then to try and communicate with her, OR that there is NO love making in this relationship? What?

Because that right there, doesn't sound beautiful.

Not knowing if the poster is 14 or 16 or 32, it is hard to give a proper answer, if they have been dating for 3 years and she is just 14, then, no they should not be having sex.

Assuming you are adults, it is time to get into counseling esp if you are living together

The fact that she;s still with him despite it all is beautiful. I meant no irony.

I still don't understand why it's beautiful that a woman who is unhappy in a relationship is still in the relationship.

Not only don't I think it's beautiful, I think it's very sad.

I'm not saying that sex is everything but it matters enough to this person that she took the time to post the question.

Sorry, Jessi, I don't know where you are coming from. Perhaps your other posts will explain something I'm not reading here.

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

Sorry, Jessi, I don't know where you are coming from. Perhaps your other posts will explain something I'm not reading here.

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It's not just you, I STILL don't quite understand it myself.

OKAY!

NO MORE ANSWERS UNTIL WE HAVE THE OP's AGE!

Anything until then will be deleted.