No physical attraction

pontiacqueen85 · #1 Oct 24, 2006, 08:01 AM

My husband and I have been married for a year and a half. Our marriage has been great and we love each other so much. I have noticed lately though that he doesn't offer to show me any affection anymore and I can't keep his attention for more than 2 seconds. When we first got married he would hug, snuggle, cuddle, and wanted me 24/7. It use to be the moment I walked in from work; he wanted to get busy and have sex right then and there. At that time I was on multiple antidepressants and it was hard for me to want sex, but eventually I came off of them and went back to having sex with him whenever he wanted it. I have gained a few pounds since we've been married and so has he. Lately I have to beg and throw myself at him to get him to look. I came home from work yesterday and he never hugged me, never said good-night, not even a kiss. I often wonder if he's just not attracted to me anymore, or even worse if he could be seeing another woman. I don't know whats up; and I have tried everything I know. When I talk to him about it, he's great the day that I mention it to him, but then he goes back to being unwelcoming or unloving again. what do I do, because I am starting to feel more like his friend and maid than his lover.

Krs · Oct 25, 2006, 03:10 AM

Have you totally expressed how you feel about it? and how he is making you feel?
Have you asked him straight forwardly whether he is still attracted to you?

velvetjones · Oct 25, 2006, 02:32 PM

Have you also asked him how it made HIM feel when you didn't feel like having sex with him during your down time?

Sentra · Oct 25, 2006, 02:42 PM

I agree wholeheartedly with the aforementioned questions. Sounds like the 'end' of the lusty newlywed phase, and it happens but it would help alot for the two of you to put your feelings out there.

Have things gotten monotonous? Perhaps an exciting change in routine can liven things up a bit: Spur of the moment vacation, picnic, anything to get some interaction between you two.

I hope everything works out!!

velvetjones · Oct 25, 2006, 02:56 PM

Talk talk talk as much and as openly as possible. It's difficult for a guys to talk about sex the way women do, at least in my experience.

Krs · Oct 26, 2006, 12:36 AM

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Originally Posted by Sentra

Have things gotten monotonous? Perhaps an exciting change in routine can liven things up a bit: Spur of the moment vacation, picnic, anything to get some interaction between you two.

I so agree!!!!
Especially the vacation idea.
Organise something, a night in a posh hotel, breakfast in bed..
Surprise him.



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