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  • May 16, 2007, 12:15 PM
    2201tj
    Multiple orgasims
    I want to give my girlfriend mutiple orgasims but do women need to rest a moment after having an orgasm? After she comes she normally encourages me to come.
  • May 16, 2007, 01:05 PM
    smoothy
    Every woman is different, some can have this easily some may never. But key is you really have to understand her, and what makes her tick, AND she has to be equally at ease with you.

    Basically there is no one answer as to how.
  • May 16, 2007, 01:43 PM
    2201tj
    Women's orgasms / recovery time?
    OK, I need to elaborate on my previous question. During sex, my girlfriend normally has her first orgasm within three to five minutes. I always thought that women needed to rest after having an orgasm before they can climax again. I also thought it might be painful to continue having intercourse after a women climaxes. So, normally I stop completely or slow down intercourse to give her time to recover. Have I been dong the wrong thing all this time? With my girlfriend, after slowing down or stopping intercourse, we continuing and a short time later she climaxes again. Is there any need to stop or slowdown?
  • May 16, 2007, 01:45 PM
    fix-what-you-broke
    The best thing to do is ask her! If you can have sex with this person I'm pretty sure you can talk about having sex, and what better than getting it straight from the horses mouth so to speak.only your girl knows what she likes...
  • May 17, 2007, 05:12 AM
    smoothy
    Some women need the break (like guys do, other women don't and for them a break would make that even harder to achieve.

    Like I have said, and this is where monogamy really pays off in dividends. You really have to fully understand her psyche. Know what her buttons are, what can send her over the edge, and being able to tell where that edge is. That's something you won't be doing without years of living with her.

    Having her be able to fully open up to you as well is key, And trust me just because you have that wedding band on doesn't mean she has or will either. It is the cullmentation of two peoples efforts, not just one.

    Now there are women who can easily get to this point without much help. They are exceedingly uncommon.
  • Jan 27, 2008, 04:44 PM
    blk_beauty
    Okay, for me I can only have one orgasm during sex. I can only count one time in my life that I have had two. Women orgasims are much more stronger and lasts a little longer orgasms longer than men, so its like afterward they would rather for you to , so you both can relax, talk and prob. Cuddle! Maybe after relaxing, getting up etc. you can try again. But since everyoe is different the best thing to do is Communicate! Good Luck
  • Jan 28, 2008, 03:07 PM
    Choux
    How do you(or your girlfriend) describe an orgasm? Is it one pulsation?
  • Jan 28, 2008, 06:56 PM
    kp2171
    Relax.

    Personally, I think it is best to get he off first.

    Then, take some time to relax, connect, and then yourself... my experience is that men (including me) are too impatient concerning sex. The slower I go, the more she's likely to pull me to her if she needs it.

    So... get her off first. Not only will it satisfy her, but it will also better lube her for you. After that, its all about you and her.

    Talk to her. Ask her what she likes. Does she need to self stim? Is she too sensitive to have multiples.

    You can NEVER talk too much about what feels good. Don't be defensive or offensive. Ask her genuinely what feels best.

    From discussions with my partner I know exactly what she likes, what is more likely to get her off, and what feels good but will never finish the job.

    Talk and talk and talk. Listen to her and be willing to sometimes go without so that she can have that moment.
  • Jan 28, 2008, 09:20 PM
    hollylovesbrandon
    Well, I am kind of like your girlfriend. When my husband is doing it right and we are working together I can orgasm within about 5 minutes. Every time I do a few tears come to my eyes. Anyway, I can only orgasm twice during a sex session without it hurting. For some reason it just hurts after the second time. One time I did have like a 15 minute orgasm though, I just laid there twitching, it was great. Anyway, my point is, every woman is different. Ask her these questions, if you are f***ing her then you can obviously ask her a question right!

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