Okay... So, a while back, I asked a question about porn and my boyfriend... and I was starting to get over the fact that he watches it until yesterday I found on his computer xpeeps.com, which i know is a site for people to post their own pictures and such. And one of the pages he had visited was a girl he knows that lives about 40 miles away. I am starting to freak out.

We have been talking about getting married soon and I find this on his computer. I know he would never cheat on me and all his best guy friends have told me that as well... how sweet he talks about me when i am not around.

But, he was visiting the xpeeps page of a girl he said he was just friends with... but xpeeps is a website devoted to nude photos.

What am i suppose to think now? ;aslkdfjasdlfj im freaking out.

yas_aks

i think you should talk to him directly and clear things up. since you have proof you will know if he is lying about not visiting such sites. tell him how distressed you feel because of this. if he is sensitive towards ur feelings i am sure he wil apologize and wil not resort to such means of pleasure again. its only after talking to him that you wil find a way out.
just watching porn is not cheating on ur partner in itself but if he is seeing girls he knows; then its a matter of concern.

lilvegangrl

that is exactly what i am thinking.

I am really stressed. And... I can't see him until next weekend, and this isn't the thing to do over the phone...
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yas_aks

don't even think of bringing this topic up over the phone. wait for him to return. just relax till then and try to keep yourself busy. do not end up getting stress-riden about it the whole week. and even wen you talk to him be firm and calm instead of being outrageously offensive. all the best. i will pray that it turns out to be nothing

DocWill

I guess from a male point of view, I would hate to be caught with such unexplainable activity such as looking at nude women. Especially a nude woman that i know or have met before. Could there be an acceptable or comforting response to the woman you are currently involved with? I have a fairly productive imagination and still can not for the life of me acquire a suitable story, excuse, lie, or reason that any woman I have had relations with would completely approve. I would be wrong no matter how I presented the existence of such web site. On the other hand, that type of web viewing is more common than I care to admit. If he was just clicking to be clicking and stumbled across her pic, I could very easily see him keeping access to the page to show his buddies from the stand point of, " See I told you it was her!" Its disturbing to accept that more and more seemingly unoriented porn or sex web links can be found with out even trying. My preferred radio station, is basically new rock, has adult web sites as paid sponsors on the main page. Anyhow if I was boobie surfing I wouldnt leave any of there visually appealing mammary supports draped over my monitor at all. For lack of better words, thats a dudes no win or explainable situation no matter how it transpired in the first place. If he is confronted, I am certain he will ask himself over and over, why the heck did I do that! lol poor guy. let us know what he says I am dying to hear this.

smoothy

This is definitely getting into an area that can go either way. I for one happen to have a friend who has a website and it has a lot of photos of that sort.

There is however no hanky panky going on in my case. But I am fully aware that is not the situation in every case.

klinus1997

How about this... a friend of mine married a guy even after she found tranny porn on his computer. I told her she was crazy for marrying him. Look on the brigh side - at least he is looking at girls????

smoothy

If you have a guy that truly never watches porn, you have a very stodgy and unimaginative person most likely and you can expect dull repetitive sex. Then 10 years down the road you bellyache about how bad your sex life is.

Trust me, I've known women like that, and I've known women who had husbands like that. I made sure that I nor my wife (now not then) ever had to suffer that.

Fr_Chuck

Since it is not really "porn" by the strict term, because porn will destroy a marriage and is very adictive.

I had a problem with this at Georiga Tech about 6 years ago. They had a ART display and it was all nudes, to me it broke a dozen or so of the city and state laws on PORN, but the official ruling was it was ART and as such protected and could be displayed. We did get them to put security at the door ( most of the time) and a sign you had to be 18 to enter. It was a public showing with people from the community.

smoothy

I've got to disagree with you on this. Like most things, in moderation it can be an enhancement to a marriage. Get two people together who think there is only one way to have sex you end up with 52% of the population thats unhappy with their marital sex lives.

Then as a result you have a greater portion of those having extra marital affairs because of the repetitive boredom of more of the same old stuff.

You can have variety and maintain a faithful monogamous relationship. And in moderation, shared porn will let a couple explore more things they can do together they might share a common interest in. But like Wine, a little is good, a lot isn't.

There is nothing more boring than missionary day after day, month after month, year after year. Deal with that and there is no wonder there is so much unhappiness in so many marriages.

I'm not a fan or supporter of open marriages, swinging or that type of thing however just to be clear.