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Okay... So, a while back, I asked a question about porn and my boyfriend... and I was starting to get over the fact that he watches it until yesterday I found on his computer xpeeps.com, which i know is a site for people to post their own pictures and such. And one of the pages he had visited was a girl he knows that lives about 40 miles away. I am starting to freak out.
We have been talking about getting married soon and I find this on his computer. I know he would never cheat on me and all his best guy friends have told me that as well... how sweet he talks about me when i am not around.
But, he was visiting the xpeeps page of a girl he said he was just friends with... but xpeeps is a website devoted to nude photos.
What am i suppose to think now? ;aslkdfjasdlfj im freaking out.
My suggestion is to watch the porn with him and maybe he won't do it so much without you, but I would tell him that you read online men that look at tranny porn are bi-curious and ask him if he would share his thoughts on that.
Even if you don't like it - watch 'normal porn' with him. Maybe that will work and you guys can do it together.
I've got to disagree with you on this. Like most things, in moderation it can be an enhancement to a marriage. Get two people together who think there is only one way to have sex you end up with 52% of the population thats unhappy with their marital sex lives.
Then as a result you have a greater portion of those having extra marital affairs because of the repetitive boredom of more of the same old stuff.
You can have variety and maintain a faithful monogamous relationship. And in moderation, shared porn will let a couple explore more things they can do together they might share a common interest in. But like Wine, a little is good, a lot isn't.
There is nothing more boring than missionary day after day, month after month, year after year. Deal with that and there is no wonder there is so much unhappiness in so many marriages.
I'm not a fan or supporter of open marriages, swinging or that type of thing however just to be clear.
Well, my bf and i are both very experienced lovers. We have a great sex life.... and every time, it gets more amazing.
I am just worried because this girl he knows in real life. It just weirds me out i guess.
Well, my bf and i are both very experienced lovers. We have a great sex life.... and every time, it gets more amazing.
I am just worried because this girl he knows in real life. It just weirds me out i guess.
As in my case I know this one as well, in real life. However I have avoided her and she has avoided me so its not like we have anything thats ongoing. If he has frequent contact with her that may be something different.
My bf did the same thing. He found out this s**t from high school turned into a skank and started doing porno so he had to look at her. That was the end to that relationship. All men need to grow up and stop watching porn. Its not nessasary in any way
I don't know any guy who heard that some girl he knew had nude pictures on the internet that wouldn't go look for them, anyone that doesn't believe me tell a boyfriend that there are nude photos of a girl friend of yours on a site and look at the internet cache the next day he will go look even if he isn't interested in the girl at all. Now you have already said you know he won't cheat on you and they were public photos not photos that she sent him personally so even though he knows her I think you need to just put this one to something guys do.
Well, my bf and i are both very experienced lovers. We have a great sex life.... and every time, it gets more amazing.
I am just worried because this girl he knows in real life. It just weirds me out i guess.
I can understand your aprehension on that. Trick is does he or does he not have anything to do with her. If there really is nothing going on then its a non-issue. If there is then there is a problem.
My bf did the same thing. He found out this s**t from high school turned into a skank and started doing porno so he had to look at her. That was the end to that relationship. All men need to grow up and stop watching porn. Its not nessasary in any way
Not a healthy attitude to have. Perhaps I can expand on that by stating you would HAVE to do whatever your BF says after all not doing so its really unessessary and you should grow up and do what he wants...after all thats what a good wife does.
Thats just an example.....not how I think. But do you see my point? How is your demand any different than what his might be?
If you want a healthy relationship...you have to keep an open mind and not try to demand others conform to your particular wants, thats controlling behavior and will eventually put off most guys. And the same can be said for guys towards women.
I've got to disagree with you on this. Like most things, in moderation it can be an enhancement to a marriage. Get two people together who think there is only one way to have sex you end up with 52% of the population thats unhappy with their marital sex lives.
Then as a result you have a greater portion of those having extra marital affairs because of the repetitive boredom of more of the same old stuff.
You can have variety and maintain a faithful monogamous relationship. And in moderation, shared porn will let a couple explore more things they can do together they might share a common interest in. But like Wine, a little is good, a lot isn't.
There is nothing more boring than missionary day after day, month after month, year after year. Deal with that and there is no wonder there is so much unhappiness in so many marriages.
I'm not a fan or supporter of open marriages, swinging or that type of thing however just to be clear.
Just because a couple doesnt watch porn doesnt automatically mean they have boring repetitive sex. Me and my boyfriend have been together for years and we dont watch porn and have AWESOME sex. We practice some tantra and it is NEVER boring...EVER....
Couples were enjoying sex long before porn, so you don't need it to have a healthy sex life. That is the lie the industry sells people so they don't feel so seedy watching it. To try and make people think they need it.
Young lady, confront your fiance about this. You don't want to go into a marriage with this hanging. If you have a problem with porn, let him know so that he can either stop doing it or you can decide if you want to deal with it.
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