okay well my girlfriend and i are seriously perfect all her flaws i love she is perfectly inperfect, but she had this boyfriend who made her had sex but it was also her idea because she wanted to because she was in a realationship and wanted to expierence but its not that i dont love her or care for her or wanna be with here more than anything but sometimes i can be a huge pus*y and not stop think that she has had sex becfore me not that it is a race or anything, but the fect that if we have sex it wont be as meaningful or special for us both.. i mean there is nothing i would change about her but because she has had such a crap relationship before me she is afraid to go far such as hjs,bjs,eating out for 7months because she is afraid it will lead to sex and she doesnt want that. iknow she wants to with me but doesnt because she doesnt want our relationship like her ex's and thats not why i got into this reationship is to be sexual but its fun and i wanna be able to do that kinda stuff with her. i just dont know what to do..

dooboo

well she isnt a victim of rape she thought she wanted it with him but after they did it she regreted it and she was crying the whole time and he didnt stop not that she didnt want it she was young and stupid but i know you can learn from it i just feel vunerable because not just sex but she doesnt wanna do other sexual stuff becasue she is afraid it will lead to that, and not just that but i feel like sometimes i give more in this relationship even though she shows she loves me and cares but she just give me mixed emotions all because of her ex..

smoothy

Like I said....if you see something special in her try to give her some time...maybe thats all she needs. But keep in mind she might be one of those that doesn't get over it. Its your call if you feel she is worth taking the chance on. Don't base her initial reluctance on that as a sign she isn't worth it. Some of the best women I ever dated were the ones most reluctant to jump in the sack at first. And by that I don't mean in bed...I mean the whole package.

If you judge women solely on their willingness to go to bed you aren't going to find the best women to spend a life with. You will miss out on getting to know all the women with high standards.

talaniman

I think its wrong and unhealthy, not to respect her feelings, and make her feel as if she must meet your needs, just because YOU want sex. If you can't understand her feelings, after knowing what she has been thru, then your not the one for her. So get rid of those selfish feelings of you doing more than she does, in this thing, and either accept her for what she is, or leave her alone. Its that simple, if you can't control your urges, and let them dictate your actions, toward her. She is right to take things at her own pace, and if you can't see that, then better turn your attentions elsewhere. Your projecting your own selfish needs, above hers, and that ain't fair dude! She isn't ready for what you want, so chill and let her get comfortable, or you'll be just like her ex, wanting just one thing.

dooboo

actually i am not ready for sex, yeah i would love to share that special moment with her, but not now defiantly when we are both ready. im just talking about like i wish we were a little physical not all the time but it kinda sucks there isnt really any but, if thats what she needs time and i know its not a race then im more than willing to wait because there is more to her than sexual stuff i just wanted to know what she was probably think, honestly i thought that maybe she didnt like my body..

presley

you need to give her some time
maybe she is thinking it will end the same way as her old relationship
because you want to start having sexual relations already

wait until she wants too
thats the only way things will be satisfactory too



and maybe talk to her about how you are NOT her ex and you WILL never be him