Is masturbation a substitute for sex?
Here it goes... I have been w/ my fiancé for 2 1/2 yrs. We have been living together for a little over 1 yr. W/in the past yr (or so) we have been having, what I considered to be, sex problems. The biggest problem being his lack of interest. The passion that once existed is gone and sex has turned into somewhat of a boring routine - usually occurring when we are in bed, preparing to go to sleep. Without getting into details, my fiancé has a very active masturbation life - of course involving porn. So, here's the latest issue I'm having, which resulted in my writing on this board for opinions. We haven't had sex in 3 days. I totally understand that this doesn't mean anything major, as many couples probably go this long w/o sex. BUT, w/in these three days I would bet all the $ I have in the bank that he masturbated each of these days. I work 9-5 job and he's self employed, so this takes place while I'm out of the house at work and he has free time to himself. Is it normal that he can go 3 days w/o sex w/ me... yet masturbated each of those three days? He tells me that masturbation isn't a substitute for the real thing, but am I crazy for thinking that if he didn't "take care of himself" he would have more of a desire for the real thing w/ a real person and not internet porn? Feedback appreciated. Thanks!