Thanks to all for your comments. Last night (after a wknd of not speaking), we discussed this topic (for the millionth time in our relationship). I told him I was going to get a vibrator and he didn't resist. Perhaps this is a step in the right direction. He also explained (for the millionth time), that he could easily masturbate in the morning and then have sex in the evening. However, in the evening he is sometimes not in the mood (b/c of stress, being tired or whatever else). What he does in the morning by himself is simply a 5 min routine that he's been doing before I ever even came into the picture. Also, he explained that sometimes he's not in the mood because of the way I act twd him. He gave me some examples (which I don't know if I entirely buy). It's esp hard to accept this excuse when, after a fight, we will make up and then he will use the fight as an excuse 1 or 2 weeks later. Anyway, I do agree w/ most of you in that he has some sort of a problem. Of course masturbation is normal, but I don't think my situation is what I call normal. He doesn't think he has a problem. Time will tell I guess.
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