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my boyfriend of 3 yrs has been telling me his fantasies lately in bed he wants me to watch him with another guy. at first i thought it was just a one time thing but thats all he talk's about in bed. he said it turns him on. we used to have sex about one's a week but know it's every day. He loves gay porn not staight porn (man & woman) we are getting married next year. Is he gay?
It may just be a fantasy or it could be more. There are women out there who have fantasies about being with a woman or enjoy girl on girl porn.
The truth is that if you think he is gay then you should end the relationship and not marry him. Thats a pretty big doubt to have going into a marriage.
Did this just recently start? Did it happen after you got engaged?
my boyfriend of 3 yrs has been telling me his fantasies lately in bed he wants me to watch him with another guy. at first i thought it was just a one time thing but thats all he talk's about in bed. he said it turns him on. we used to have sex about one's a week but know it's every day. He loves gay porn not staight porn (man & woman) we are getting married next year. Is he gay?
wanting to be with another person in bed with either sex should be a warning sign. Watching two men in a video with you does not mean he is gay, but it could stimulate him thinking of you watching two men with different size penis. Being with another man in bed while you watch is this not considered cheating to you? At least give him credit for telling you now so you can dump him before you get married and then find out. Being a man myself I would think he has gay or is very bi-sexual.
Well maybe its like I said how some people get turned on by same sex coupling. It doesn't necessarily mean anything it may just be a fantasy. Maybe once you both got engaged he felt he could express his desires.
If you worry that its more he needs to tell you. Maybe you guys should do some counseling before you move forward with your wedding.
I do ask him but he gets mad and changes the subject
He shouldn't get mad. If he's avoiding the subject he obviously feels uncomfortable talking about it, and if he is straight he should have no problem with that conversation. If you are having doubts now before you guys are married you should think long and hard about how you are going to feel about it after marriage. If he is gay and hiding it you don't know how long he's going to stay in the closet. It would stink to be married for 10 years or something and have him finally admit he's gay. You don't want that, so I would keep asking and ask him why he has to change the subject. He owes it to you and himself to be honest and just tell you if he's gay.
How about a "safe" answer...Say you feel that watching him with another man would be like him cheating on you. A safe way for you two to explore this fantasy would be for you to use a strap-on dildo. He can give you oral, he could "receive" from you, or he could hold you and feel what it is like to hold another man...all without a third party.
Well, if he still has sex with you a lot, but still has fantasies about the same sex, maybe he's metro, or bi-sexual. You should approach him on the subject, especially if you're getting married soon!
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