is my man gay?

hot-chocolat1255 · Aug 9, 2007, 05:36 AM

my boyfriend of 3 yrs has been telling me his fantasies lately in bed he wants me to watch him with another guy. at first i thought it was just a one time thing but thats all he talk's about in bed. he said it turns him on. we used to have sex about one's a week but know it's every day. He loves gay porn not staight porn (man & woman) we are getting married next year. Is he gay?

Treeny · Aug 20, 2007, 07:57 PM

Do you think he really wants you to watch him with another guy or just a fantasy?
Before I married him I would seeif he would realy go on with it call his bluff, say ok lets just do it see if he really would . If he did I would say yes hes Gay or Bi.
PLEASE Go to premariage counceling!

LADY_LUV · Sep 10, 2007, 07:34 AM

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Originally Posted by smoothy

If a guy is turned on by women as well as men he is Bisexual....not gay.

And anything you do with you partner that you both like is fair game. If its consensual I won't mock anyone. To many horrible relationships that lead to too much cheating due to too many sexually repressed people out there.

Incidentally for those women who think they are doing everything they need to by laying on your back and raising your legs once a week and nothing more shouldn't be surprised when he looks elsewhere. And conversely for the guys who refuse to do more than missionary with their women shouldn't be surprised when they stray as well.

I HAVE A GAY FRIEND AND HE GETS TURNED ON BY WOMEN HE JUST DON'T WANT TO SLEEP WITH THEM HE. MIGHT SAY '' MAN THAT GIRL IS FINE, ONLY IF I WAS INTO WOMEN I WOULD TALK TO HER. HES TURNED ON BY HERE BUT KNOWS ITS NOT WHAT HE WANTS.

smoothy · Sep 10, 2007, 08:16 AM

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Originally Posted by LADY_LUV

I HAVE A GAY FRIEND AND HE GETS TURNED ON BY WOMEN HE JUST DON'T WANT TO SLEEP WITH THEM HE. MIGHT SAY '' MAN THAT GIRL IS FINE, ONLY IF I WAS INTO WOMEN I WOULD TALK TO HER. HES TURNED ON BY HERE BUT KNOWS ITS NOT WHAT HE WANTS.

I can't see the he gets turned on by women but wouldn't sleep with them part. Getting turned on is not the same as saying "oh she's attractive", there are attractive women that don't turn me on....thats all about what grabs the attention of the little head. If women get the little bosses attention then I'm going to say that guy is bi, and not gay. Choosing to not sleep with a woman is NOT the same as not wanting to sleep with a woman.

pawsdogdaycare · Sep 11, 2007, 04:54 AM

If he is actually trying to initiate human to human contact with another dude while his girl watches.. I sugest that she go to the fire department and get some HALON, cause he's a flamer..



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