my boyfriend of 3 yrs has been telling me his fantasies lately in bed he wants me to watch him with another guy. at first i thought it was just a one time thing but thats all he talk's about in bed. he said it turns him on. we used to have sex about one's a week but know it's every day. He loves gay porn not staight porn (man & woman) we are getting married next year. Is he gay?

Dennis777

Hello.

From what you said he has had this fantasy for a long time so its not just a new thing that will pass. I think my first question would be has he ever been with a Man. I have the feeling the answer would be yes and he is missing the excitement he gets from it.

You can't marry him until you have worked past this problem. Im not sure how open you are but if it is a fantasy he has never acted on maybe letting him act it out will show him its not want he wanted and will forget the idea OR it will be everything he ever wanted and you will know he isn't going to be the man you need in life.

If you can't let him act it out then you need to move on and find a Man that will treat you like the special Lady you are.

Good Luck
Dennis777

smoothy

He may have Bi tendencies but not gay. Gay guys aren't turned on by women. Bi guys get turned on by both.

But..fantasies are just that fantasies. We all have them, some we would never dream about acting out on.

Look at it this way....he's comfortable enough with you to tell this to you. Its not like he asked you to actually do this.

Incidentally the wife had a fantasy like that. She wanted to see me with like 4 well endowed guys. Its just a fantasy. I never got upset with her about it, she knows I'm straight. Hell I even use that as a way to really turn her on at the right time. No reason to be upset about it.

LADY_LUV

Ok Yea.... Thats Gay A Man Should Not Want To Watch Two Other Man GET THEIR GROOVE ON UNLESS HE WANT TO JOIN AND IF SO THAN Yea Hes Gay! IF MY BOYFRIEND EVEY SAID SOME STUFF LIKE THAT TO ME IM OUT NO QUESTIONS ASKED CAUSE LATER DOWN THE LINE I DON'T WANT TO COME HOME FROM WORK AND FIND HIM AND BED WITH THE NEIGHBORS HUSBAND

LADY_LUV

THATS A LIE SOME GAY GUY ARE TURNED ON BY WOMEN.. AND I THOUGHT YOU WERE SUPPOSED TO MAKE YOUR FANTASIES COME TRUE. IF YOUR HAVING FANTASIES ABOUT YOUR GIRLFRIEND BEING AND A PINK TEDDY YOUR NOT GOING TO ASK HER TO GO OUT AND GET ONE? I THINK YOU WILL..AND WHAT DO U MEAN U USE IT TO TURN HER ON SO WHAT DO U DO PLAY WITH A DILDO GAYYYYYYY

LADY_LUV

I AGREE WITH DENNIS777 ASK HIM IF HE EVER BEEN WITH A MAN AND IF SO RUN LIKE HELL

smoothy

If a guy is turned on by women as well as men he is Bisexual....not gay.

And anything you do with you partner that you both like is fair game. If its consensual I won't mock anyone. To many horrible relationships that lead to too much cheating due to too many sexually repressed people out there.


Incidentally for those women who think they are doing everything they need to by laying on your back and raising your legs once a week and nothing more shouldn't be surprised when he looks elsewhere. And conversely for the guys who refuse to do more than missionary with their women shouldn't be surprised when they stray as well.

mickey22

i would say yes, just ask him

Ciel

My concern would be that he is secretly having relations with men now; which has the potential to be more than emotionally harmful to you. In some ways, it sounds like a very roundabout way of actually coming out to you. I wouldn't ignore it. Even if he isn't gay, he is providing several indicators that he is not suitable for you. This makes you unhappy, and I have a feeling it will only get worse. I would strongly consisider not marrying him.

Matt3046

If you had to ask? Uh yeah.

dreamangel226

Maybe you should try to have an upfront conversation with him. Tell him that you are confused by his signals and there is no need for him to get upset, you are just trying to keep the lines of communication open. If he becomes defensive, maybe that is a sign that he is hiding something. Bottom line, if you have doubts about something, proceed with caution.