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Asked Jul 28, 2012, 03:07 AM
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18 Answers I recently started a sexual relationship with a guy with who I work with, with the full knowledge and consent of my hus band of 23 yrs, for which I have no regrets. The sex is wonderfull and I love him but in a totally different way to my husband. They are totally different. My lover is black, strong and dominant my husband is white meek and naturally submissive. Recently however my lover has said that I should remain exclusive to him sexually. I have tried to explain to him that due to my husband sexual issues next to nothing happens with my husband other than kisses and cuddles. But he says that even this shouldn't take place and that I should be his woman totally even consider sleeping seperatly to my husband. I have discussed my lovers issues with my husband and he says that whilst he would prefer me to rmain sleeping in the same bed as him, on the nights I'm not at my lovers house, he would understand. Is my lover acting unreasonably? |
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| Yes it is not reasonable, a husband by nature of the arrangement has certain moral rights and responsibilities. you are taking advantage of his submissive nature. A lover outside of marriage is just for that, sex, and sex alone, not a relationship. the lover has stepped outside his boundry and needs to be brought back into understanding his role. | ||||
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Whilst I neither understand nor believe you why are you questioning where to sleep when you aren't with your lover? Decide whether you want to sleep separately to your husband or not and then do whatever feels right. Next question - | ||||
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| afaroo,,, no it isn't for money lthough he does look after me really well and we love each other. Fr_Chuck,,, probably agree with you the most but I don't believe I am taking advantage of his submissive nature at all. In fact we are pretty equal in that department. JudyKayTree,,,,,, agreed, I suppose I just don't want to tell my husband we are no longer going to sleep together. Odinn7,,,,No I don't feel good but you have to understand that if my husband said he didn't even want me to see my lover ever again I love him so much I would do just that. Thankyou all for taking the time to answer | ||||
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| I think your lover is trying to wean you away from your husband. I think he is trying to play a power game here. While your husband is submissive and is letting you go far, I think you're starting to cross a line. He's your lover, not your husband, he has no right to dictate to you what you should or should not do. You need to stay in control of the situation because your husband won't try to control you and your lover will. So dial it back and put your lover in his place. If this ends the affair than so be it. It could tear apart your marriage otherwise. | ||||
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As far as I know it's because "My lover is black, strong and dominant my husband is white meek and naturally submissive." And I agree - makes me sick. This is why the number of AIDS cases is higher every year. I can almost see her side of this - her husband doesn't care one way or the other. If she's sleeping around I also wouldn't want to have sex with her. What is the husband thinking? Apparently nothing. And the "black" lover (and this would be no less offensive if she described him as Polish, Puerto Rican or anything else) - it's free sex with no strings. He gets to tell her when/how/where - and then go on to tell other women when/how/where. | ||||
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I know someone who is married, younger than me, in an open relationship with her husband. She whores herself out to whoever she pleases but goes home to her husband at night. I don't understand why or agree with it, but she doesn't really need my blessings to do this. She recently broke it off with one of her long time lovers. Better for him I think. It is just a really complicated set of relationships. | ||||
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