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    laylow80 Posts: 67, Reputation: 3
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    Jan 29, 2007, 05:27 PM
    Letting him know what feels good.
    How do I go about telling my boyfriend what I want him to do without making him feel as if he doesn't do a good job pleasuring me?

    I've tried guiding his hand with mine to show him what I like, but he goes back to doing what he's been doing after a few seconds of doing what I show him.

    Suggestions?
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    Jan 29, 2007, 07:50 PM
    Communication is key , you need to tell him if it does not feel good, or tell him that it would feel better if he were too... but don't make it out like what he is doing is bad,or he is unable to do a good job
    Together you both will enjoy each other more if you ask each other what you would like and what feels good. Just a guys view on it.
    Enjoy!
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    Jan 29, 2007, 09:36 PM
    Does he tell you what feels good to him?? And if he is not doing what you like and what makes you feel good then he is not doing a good job of pleasuring you, so don't be ashamed to tell him. When you are to the point in your relationship that you are have sex with each other it is past time to be afraid of hurting his feelings. It is time to find out what he can do for you because marriage to the wrong person is a long time.
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    laylow80 Posts: 67, Reputation: 3
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    Jan 30, 2007, 05:04 PM
    Thanks guys, I'm sure he won't be offened if I told him it'd feel better to.. etc. and he usually tells me when something feels good while I'm doing it. I do the same thing but he doesn't seem to pickup on what I really enjoy.. I mean it all feels good for me but I'd just like to let him know what would feel the best.
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    Jan 30, 2007, 05:43 PM
    When you guide his hands and he hits the right spot, make lots of noise! Whenever he hits the right spot, signal that he's got it by making lots of noise! That's how he can tell if he is doing it right. If he still doesn't get it, and goes back to the wrong spot, voice it out loud: "Babe, a little lower. A little left babe. Hmmm right there.". Etc. If he STILL doesn't get it, straight out tell him: "Honey I want you to touch me right here!". LOL Good luck!
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    Jan 31, 2007, 02:47 PM
    thanks =)
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