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Asked Sep 22, 2009, 09:21 PM — 12 Answers
As with almost every guy, I am constantly worrying about the size of my penis. At a full erection, it is about 4.5 inches long. I know this is below average unfortunately, and I also know that there's nothing I can do to make it any longer. However, I was just wondering if 4.5" is long enough to satisfy a women. I have a new girlfriend, and she's hinted that she wants to have sex, I'm just worried of embarrassment because of my size. So, is it long enough? I don't want her not to feel it...that'd be so embarrassing.

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Sep 22, 2009, 09:30 PM
Some women prefer short ones. Some like the very deep pressure.

The important thing is for you to be well educated about female anatomy. Then, your girlfriend should be able to tell you what feels good to her. Every woman is different.

If you're going to obsess about something sexual, don't obsess over the size of your penis. Be alert and responsive to her every action and reaction. Obsess about paying attention to your partner while having sex.

Large penises don't satisfy at all if connected to a jerk.
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Sep 22, 2009, 09:41 PM
I've been with all sizes, 4 inches to 10 inches and everything in between.

I can honestly say, size doesn't matter. It all depends on skill.

Lots of foreplay, get her in the moment, get her writhing, then go for it.

Just remember to use a condom, that's really the most important thing.
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Sep 22, 2009, 10:01 PM
Just practice skills. That's all that really matters.
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Sep 23, 2009, 02:06 AM
It is not necessarily about size...... Yours is still a very reasonable size indeed, and definitely not something to worry about. Some people like big and other people like small.... Everybody is different.

I think the more important thing is actually self-confidence and being happy with your own body. This is very important and makes sex better and relationships better. It is easy to see if someone is low in self confidence or is ashamed of their body and this is immediately unnattractive. Once someone is happy with themselves they become much more attractive to others... It is almost as if you are only as attractive as you think you are (but don't be cocky either!)

You can't make it bigger, but you can learn to be a good and better lover by loving yourself and accepting/loving your body. You can't change the size so quit worrying and become a good lover... HONESTLY I really do believe this.

One of the best lovers I have been with actually had the smallest penis in my experience. And he was self confident and gave loads of pleasure to me by simply enjoying my body and listening to what I wanted and doing lots of foreplay.

See.... It doesn't matter
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Sep 23, 2009, 08:04 AM
This question has been asked many times before on the AMHD boards, and as you might expect, the answers have been all over the place.

One woman might like a longer man's unit hitting her cervix... And the next might find it painful and extremely unpleasurable.

The best sex I can give is when I am able to stimulate a lover in multiple ways, with some predictability (meaning not flittering all other the place all the time, finding a rhythm she likes) and with some surprise as well...

Penetration is good... But if you aren't in her head before, you are ignoring too many things that can get her over the top, even without penetration.

A suggestion... If she is willing, woman on top often gives her more options for angles and pressure that please her...but she might be shy about this. In my opinion the standard "missionary position" is a lousy one for many women unless they are also willing to self stimulate.
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Sep 23, 2009, 09:09 AM
Alty - Love being on top. Just saying.

I'm ok speaking for the rest of the XX chomosomes in saying your comfort is my pleasure.
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Sep 23, 2009, 09:36 AM
If you're worried about whether or not you're big enough for her, you're NOT worried enough about being in tune with her mind, her body, her rhythms.

Seriously, if more guys understood that their penis size doesn't mean diddly-squat and that it's their IMAGINATION and WILLINGNESS TO PLEASE that matter, then a lot more women would be better satisfied.
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Sep 23, 2009, 12:40 PM
Hmmm... I've never wondered if my tongue was "big enough"...
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Sep 24, 2009, 07:17 AM
Men worry about the craziest things. It only there was a magic pill to make women's breast larger and men's penis's drag the ground. Well there ain't so make what you got work for you. Use your tounge, vibrators or whatever means you need too to please your lover. By the time you get to the actual act of intercourse she won't even be thinking about whether your penis is 4.5 or 10. Get after it!

Don't worry, be Happy!
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