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Ladies: If your man watches porn do YOU consider it "cheating?"

Asked Mar 17, 2011, 12:29 AM — 38 Answers
I got into this discussion with a lady friend the other day, & she insisted that it was cheating. She said it's because he is lusting after & possibly masturbating to, an image of another woman. So in your opinion is that "cheating" why or why not? By the way yes, she is religious just not a zealot.
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Mar 18, 2011, 10:10 AM
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Are....are you comparing bestiality to an occasional enjoyment in porn? Haha, I haven't seen the movie, I just looked up a brief synopsis and the thought made me laugh.

Honesty is my policy and it is my boyfriend's as well. It works very well for us, but neither of us would blink an eye at a nudie deck. So, good luck again!
Ummm...1) Hopefully you didn't just ruin the movie or put off someone from watching it because "bestiality" isn't what the movie is about at all. 2) No comparison between bestiality & watching "regular" porn @ all. 3) Watch the film in its' entirety & get back with us/me. It's not gross because nothing is ever shown. But I would be very interested in hearing what you have to say about what the movie is REALLY about & your solution to the poor girl's dilemma.
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Mar 18, 2011, 10:13 AM
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Ummm...1) Hopefully you didn't just ruin the movie or put off someone from watching it because "bestiality" isn't what the movie is about at all. 2) No comparison between bestiality & watching "regular" porn @ all. 3) Watch the film in its' entirety & get back with us/me. It's not gross because nothing is ever shown. But I would be very interested in hearing what you have to say about what the movie is REALLY about & your solution to the poor girl's dilemma.
I was tooootally kidding with you. It made me laugh in a light-hearted way, that's all. Where's that sarcasm font?
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Mar 18, 2011, 10:27 AM
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Ladies: If your man watches porn do YOU consider it "cheating?"
Hello F:

No, but I think masturbating is cheating... Do you cheat/whack off? I'll bet you do.

excon
So excon, you think "masturbating is cheating?" Elaborate.
Btw, LOL on your question. And I could reply and say, "yes I do frequently to pictures of your sisters & mother."
But I won't. : P
JK
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Mar 18, 2011, 10:28 AM
If this is a friend and there isn't any romantic entanglement involved what does it matter what her viewpoint is on porn. She has her opinion. Others have theirs. If she is getting upset about something you have in your house then it is up to you to set the boundary and explain to her that you do not agree with her viewpoint and agree to disagree.

You keep talking about picking your battles but I am getting the impression that you want ammunition to blow her argument away.

What are you wanting out of this discussion, because I don't think it is advice?
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Mar 19, 2011, 07:24 AM
I've watched porn myself when I've been committed, and I never feel any less towards my partner. Although I feel rather uncomfortable if they were to, I'd still allow them to.

It's my insecurities that need sorting out, not the fact that someone I'm with would look at porn.

To add to this, I'm a glamour model, it's MY job for men to look at me!

Xx Dani G
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Mar 19, 2011, 03:12 PM
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If this is a friend and there isn't any romantic entanglement involved what does it matter what her viewpoint is on porn. She has her opinion. Others have theirs. If she is getting upset about something you have in your house then it is up to you to set the boundary and explain to her that you do not agree with her viewpoint and agree to disagree.

You keep talking about picking your battles but I am getting the impression that you want ammunition to blow her argument away.

What are you wanting out of this discussion, because I don't think it is advice?
1) I didn't say she was or wasn't "romantically involved" with me. 2) I wasn't seeking "ammunition to blow her argument away" rather perspective from the women on this group. I believe I made that quite clear. 3) Advise- no, opinions/thoughts- yes. Because I know I would never be able to change her mind & wouldn't even bother trying (I.e. Picking my battles).
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May 3, 2012, 11:18 AM
I do think it's cheating. If you're willing to please your partner however and whenever they want they should not need porn. It's harmful to the health of your relationship if your partner feels hurt, inadequate or lied to. It's unnecessary.
smoothy (May 3, 2012 11:32 AM): You Opinion isn't reality.... You are repsonsible to get your issues treated..not blame others.   Source:.
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May 3, 2012, 02:16 PM
This is a topic that is a year old. Chances are the the original poster isn't going to your response. Please take a look at the date of the last post and not revive threads older than a week or two.

Also You're not really conversant on the way that men use porn and masturbation. There are more than a number of threads in the past little bit that explain it well. You might want to educate yourself, it will save strife in teh future.
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May 3, 2012, 06:53 PM
No it is not cheating. How could it be?
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