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Lack of Sex & Marijuanna?

Asked Jun 20, 2007, 11:13 AM — 16 Answers
Hello,
This is my first time using a site such as this so bare with me. I have been with my boyfriend for three years (living together for 8 months.) We are both in our late 20's.
We have never had a healthy sex life. I though when we moved in together in would improve but no such luck. Here's the thing: he smokes a decent amount of weed (like in the evening when we are watching TV) I am wondering if this could be the ONLY cause. I know he's in-love with me (tells me all the time), it's not his nature to cheat (but I can't rule it out) and he's not gay (I have asked several times). Last week we had a chat and I said that we need to at least try to do it once a week and he agreed. Since then I have tried three days in a row and have got turned down each time. I always kind of blamed the pot but at this point should start looking in other directions? I mean, if he's SO in love with me, regardless of the pot, he should still want to have sex AT LEAST once a week, right?

Advice would be highly appreciated from anyome who is in a similar situation.

Thanks!
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Jun 20, 2007, 11:24 AM
Reefer will help wilt the willy. Its one of the side effects.
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Jun 20, 2007, 01:23 PM
There have been studies which show pot has a negative effect on sex drive and the ability to have an erection. I have a friend who dated a guy years ago who smoked on a daily basis and he was often unable to satisfy her. She was begging for it, and he was unable to perform.

Chances are, the culprit is smoking pot. Is there a way you can encourage him to stop?
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Jun 20, 2007, 01:45 PM
Hello Smokin:

I've been getting loaded for 35 years and still have plenty of lead in my pencil. Look for another reason.

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Jun 20, 2007, 01:50 PM
Believe it or not, it's a releif to hear people think that pot is the culprit as well. I would prefer pot to another woman or man! He has slowed down as we get older but he can't seem to give it up completely.

Thanks for your response
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Jun 20, 2007, 01:51 PM
Dammit excon! You just totally rained on my parade!
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Jun 20, 2007, 02:01 PM
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I've been getting loaded for 35 years and still have plenty of lead in my pencil. Look for another reason.
Just because it hasn't affected you in that way doesn't mean it doesn't affect others...... Or maybe his stuff is way, WAY better than yours!
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Jun 20, 2007, 02:02 PM
Hello.

Don't rule out the pot or the reason he smokes it. Many people that smoke after work to relax are so laid back they don't want to do anything. No matter how much fun it is Sex takes energy and if he is in the all I want to do is relax mode then he is going to turn you down. Its not you I'm sure he would turn down almost anything that means moving around.

Try getting him excited in the morning or before he has a chance to get in his relaxing mood at night.

Sorry to say this but some people just don't enjoy Making Love. If he is one of them then nothing you do is going to change him.

Good Luck
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Jun 21, 2007, 06:27 AM
In my opinion the pot has nothing to do about it. I know MANY people who smoke pot much much more then your boyfriend does and it has never effected them sexually in any way. My boyfriend smokes pot at random intervals all through out the day unless he is working and so do I. Though I do suppose that it could effect others in ways that I have not seen. Though if he's a person who drinks a lot and often that can cause problems with him getting "it" up. His sex drive also may be lower then yours. Maybe you two need to sit and talk some more to try and figure out what's wrong.
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Jun 21, 2007, 07:46 AM
My ex boyfriend and I smoked pot on a regular basis when we were together and he never had a problem with keeping it up and satisfying me. It almost seemed like he was more horny when he was high. I wouldn't completely blame weed on his problem.
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