First- I'm 18 going on 19. I don't know anything, or what im even doing most of the time!
Second- It there chance that even though you had intercourse you still could be a virgin?
Third-I do not orgasm during sex, also i don't think i have a "special spot", this not helping because my boy friend feels he is at fault.
Fourth-I do masturbate i know what my body wants and what it doesn't, but i seem to need a lot of four play before is this normal?
Fith- What can i do, so i can have a vaginal orgasm? This would make me happy and my boyfriend.

PLEASE HELP!! Thank very much

Fr_Chuck

1. No body knows much about sex when they start.
2. NO, NO NO, once you have sex you are no longer a virgin unless you merely lie and tell others you are.
3. You have one, he needs to take time
4. Yes for you this will be normal,
5. perhaps alot of foreplay first

Make sure it is safe sex, protection and birth control

J_9

1. Most people don't when they begin having sex. It comes with practice.
2. Nope. Once you have sex you are no longer a virgin. No question about it.
3. It is not your boyfriend's fault, but you need to teach him what you like. Men don't know the woman's body like a woman does. They have to be taught what feels good to us.
4. Yup, perfectly normal. Most women need a lot of foreplay.
5. Many many woman NEVER have vaginal orgasms, only clitoral orgasms. This does not make you any less of a woman.

HappySeedling

you will definitely learn as you go, if you're really curious then watch 5 minutes of a porno.

and i agree with the few above me, sorry to say you can no longer claim you're a virgin.

all women have a g-spot, and i didn't know what or where it was until i became more sexually experienced. the only way i can have an O during sex is if my clitorous is also stimulated....at that point when my g spot is stimulated (which his penis rubs automatically during sex) the feelings are more intense that externally masturbating.

just remember, you can't force yourself to have an O. in order for me to reach that point i have to be mentally and physically turned on...if i think too much about what's taking place i have a harder time letting it "feel good". even now, i have been sexually active for years and lots of times i just have sex to help my boyfriend get off, i can only enjoy it if i am mentally wanting it bad.

one day you'll feel it, and the anticipation will have been worth it.

peanut6966

All I can say if after having intercoarse you are not a virgin anymore. As for the having an orgasm during intercorse some women cant (I am one of them) I use a vibrator on my clitorus while my husband has sex with me. He loves it because he can watch me do that while having sex with me and I get to hve an orgasm at the same time

kp2171

i second all the above. i dated only one girl who could practically orgasm in tight pants. life was easy for her... and for me. i thought i was the king of the bedroom.

uh... no.

next girl hated all the so-fantstic-you-cant-even-believe-it tricks i did from the previous relationship. oh well.

so its a journey. figure out what you like and begin exploring and asking for things that sound like fun. diff positions can make a big diff. also multiple stim at the right times.

theres one position that just drives me mad cause i can be in her and have both hands on her chest or neck from behind and all her weight on the pelvis region, but its when she cranks her head around and bites at my ear (late in the game, not too early) that it goes astronomical. and, after doing this position mostly for my benefit for a couple of years, we finally found stimulation she liked that could sometimes put her over the edge too.

you need to find what works for you. you need to have fun with the process. it really is a lifelong learning.