Hi. My name is B and i think my boyfriend might be gay. I have known him for a long time and recently he has had a lot of problems getting hard when we want to have sex unless I am bent over with my butthole spread open. He has also been commenting on our guy friends' and judging which ones are attractive. He has kissed a couple guys but he said that they were just bets. I also caught him masterbating to male porn one day when i came home from class. Apparently he was just scrolling through.

I love him but i don't know what to do.
Can someone help me out?

Xrayman

I should give you a reddie for that, but I will contain myself out of respect to you.

For a start, my post was not offensive. Secondly have you never heard of experimentation/fantasy? Going by your post, If we were put in prison for fantasy and/or one-off experiments, we'd all be incarcerated. Lastly, learn how to type and spell before posting, as it shows a lack of interest in answering the post and a gross misunderstanding of the issues.

Queen0804

don't judge him that quick.. but if he is masterbating to male porn and kissing guys (Even for bets) I think the idea of liking men is in his head.. so just be careful and see what happens.

rubberduckiewoo

yeah he's gay i caught him having sex on my bed with one of my friends. He was spanking his butt and saying how tight he was. He loved it, oh well.

mseik

If you had agreed to a monogamous relationship, then I'm sorry you're having to go through the emotional shock and aftermath of experiencing that.

Also, it is almost inevitable that we take things like this personally, and I can only assure you that it has nothing to do with you and you are not "deficient" in any way.

Sexuality is just not black and white, as much as we try to make it that way. It is extremely difficult for a person coming from a straight perspective to understand why someone would be in a straight relationship when they're actually gay, or completely deny they're gay. It happens every day, though. There is tremendously complex inner conflict happening when someone finds that they're not attracted to the opposite sex. This is not the societal norm and can often be a difficult journey, and many people don't express their natural preference because of that. This conflict can last a lifetime, through heterosexual marriage, children, straight relationships, and very often expressed in outspoken homophobia or homosexual bigotry and intolerance. Not to mention self-hatred and loathing.

So, do gay people have heterosexual relationships? Yes. Do they do so to torture their straight partner or deceive them? No. Are they trying to be someone they're not? Yes.

I hope you are able to move on and heal well from this experience, and I wish you well.

SJPx17

well he is either gay, bi-sexual, curious orr just different