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kim1895 · Aug 20, 2013, 02:58 PM

So here's how the story goes.. . Me and my boyfriend have been dating for over a year and a half now. I have always been more sexual then him. Since I've had way more experience then him I can understand that in the beginning he wouldn't be as comfortable as me. I am now the only person in his life that has seen him completely naked. Even during the first time we had sex, which was a couple of weeks ago, he kept his boxers on. I've tried to be understanding and curb my sexual cravings, but it's hard when you have a boyfriend that is completely beautiful as he is. How do I help him be more in tune with his sexy side ? How can I get him more comfortable to try new things ? How can I get him more into having sex ?

talaniman · Aug 20, 2013, 03:32 PM

Tell him what you want, and see if he goes along with it. Be aware he may not be as willing to change as fast as you want him to, if at all, but try talking about it.

kim1895 · Aug 20, 2013, 03:52 PM

Originally Posted by talaniman

Tell him what you want, and see if he goes along with it. Be aware he may not be as willing to change as fast as you want him to, if at all, but try talking about it.

I have talked about it with him before. He doesn't give much back though. When I try to give him advice on what to do, I feel like I've insulted him. The only times times I've actually notice him really try is when I've gotten really upset about it, then talked to him about it.

Wondergirl · Aug 20, 2013, 04:03 PM

Is it possible he grew up in a very conservative home? I was always taught as a kid that one never gets naked except alone in a bathroom while taking a bath or shower.

kim1895 · Aug 20, 2013, 04:13 PM

Originally Posted by Wondergirl

Is it possible he grew up in a very conservative home? I was always taught as a kid that one never gets naked except alone in a bathroom while taking a bath or shower.

His parents have talked with him about sex. They just don't want us doing it in the house. They let us pitch a tent outside before. His parents are fine with sex as long as they don't have to hear it.

J_9 · Aug 20, 2013, 04:20 PM

How old are the two of you?

kim1895 · Aug 20, 2013, 04:46 PM

Originally Posted by J_9

How old are the two of you?

18(me) and 21. We've known each other since I was four.

Fr_Chuck · Aug 21, 2013, 03:15 AM

If parents make you do it in a tent in the yard, of course he will have a complex, knowing his parents are in house knowing what he is doing.

How about gong on trip, getting a motel or hotel, I am sorry, the entire "tent" issue is enough to cause anyone problems

talaniman · Aug 21, 2013, 06:41 AM

You have bigger problems to solve together as a couple than just your sex life. I mean doesn't sound like your lives are your own in the first place. Changing your situation would be a higher priority than changing him since the only option for physical romance is a tent in the backyard.

Are you sure your lust isn't distracting you from a bigger picture here? No wonder he doesn't have much to say about your sex life when he can't change his circumstances. Or won't. Do you work? Does he?