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I'm 18 years old and still a virgin. I want my "first time'' to be "special" but whenever i say that my friends kinda make fun of me. They say that your first time should be special but it just doesnt really work like that these days. Since usually kids have sex at like 15 now its so crazy. I just wanna know if its normal that i still want my first time to be "special"?!?!?!
It's very honorable that you want your first time to be special. Don't let your friends make fun of you. Sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders.
Just as an FYI....On Friday, I have to induce labor on a 14 year old. Keep your priorities straight.
Don't let your dumb friends influence your actions....its your life and you only lose your virginity once. Why not have it exactly at the point YOU feel is right. Even if that is at 40 its nobodies business but your own.
My advice is that you *not* have sex while you are in your teens.
I think it is normal for girls to Romanticize sex and have a lot of notions about sex and men that are incorrect, and as I said, Romanticized, not real....as in waiting for their Prince Charming.
It has been a terrible thing in my opinion, that so many teens have had sex, oral, watched porn, and done all kinds of "kinky" sexual stuff when *THEY ARE TOO YOUNG*.... it seems like it is too difficult to repair the damage, and sex lives are poisoned.
Sex is not just an automatic pleasurable exercise for women. After reading lots of posts here on the Sexuality Board, you will see that there is a lot of misery out there experienced by young women who had sex too young and for the wrong reasons.
ok i think that last comment was a little harsh, but i do understand where blackblue is coming from. When i was 16...one month from 17, i lost my virginity to the completely wrong guy at the completely wrong time. I had just lost my mother to cancer and started doing a bunch of stupid sh;t that was a mistake. i was drinking and trying to prove myself to my friends (who were all skinnier and i thought prettier) that i could get a man. I won't say i regret it because i try to regret nothing i have ever done...but i do look back on it a lot and think " what was i thinking?" i met the man that is now my husband about a month later...he lost his virginity to me (at the age of 17). i only wish that i had the same "special gift" to give to him. Although he didn't care, it bothered me.
So basically my advice is, your friends need to realize that just because sex is something "everyone does" doesn't mean that they should just do it on a whim...because i promise there will be a day when they wish they hadn't done it then, with him or her, at that time, in that place. Tell your friends that you don't want to be like everyone else. You are your own person with your own thoughts and personality. You CAN think for yourself. When they laugh at you just laugh right back at them...when they ask why just say, "oh, no reason."
OK, this is going to sound old-fashioned, but my first time was with my wife on our wedding night (her's too). We have ONLY been with each other for over 20 years now. Sure, it was awkward and fumbling, but it's not the only thing we share in our marriage with ONLY each other. We share the happiness and the sadness and the thrills and the spills.
But, even now, we look in each other's eyes and know that our love is constant, strong, and vibrant.
That is my choice; it doesn't have to be yours, but I have never been happier!!!
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