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Old Feb 16, 2008, 02:46 PM
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Quick question. I have seen a lot of these threads where people are confused about what constitutes virginity. I was just wondering what most of you thought about oral sex. If you have had oral sex but not intercourse, are you still considered a virgin?
 
     

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Old Feb 22, 2008, 12:38 PM   #91  
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Okay, now that we've all agreed to disagree on this whole mess, and it's getting off topic...

I'm closing this thread.

It will reopen ONLY with a PM to me from the OP.

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Allheart agrees: Sorry Synn. I would have rathered you let me know and I am sorry to the other's as now the topic is closed because I took it off track. Sorry.
Altenweg agrees: I'm sorry too. I'm a gabber, didn't mean to go off topic. My bad. sorry.
 
 
     
 
 
Old Feb 23, 2008, 12:14 PM   #92  
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Hello Synnen!

I hope you're doing great! Well I'm writing because I was hoping you could re-open my topic for just another day or two. Some people expressed wanting to hear what I thought about the whole debate and I would like to share that information. More importantly I want to let people know why I asked that question because some may have the wrong idea about me. Thanks!

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Old Feb 23, 2008, 12:27 PM   #93  
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Hello Everyone,

Well I asked Synnen to reopen the topic for another day or two because I wanted to share my final thoughts and the reason for me asking this particular question.

Remember, I am a male and 22 years old. With that said here we go. It was just a couple months ago when I had met the most wonderful girl to have ever walked into my life. She was amazing, we clicked very well, and ended up getting into a relationship. We were very passionate about one another and I had decided that I wanted her to be my first. I had finally met someone I wanted to lose my virginity to. She was so great and I was very happy.

Well about a month into our relationship I had my first sexual experience (oral sex) and it was great, which was made better because I had so much passion for her. We had oral sex a couple more times in the following weeks and I was sure that we would eventually have sexual intercourse when we were both ready. Unfortunately the relationship fell apart (the break up was bad and I am still trying to deal with it), which we really came at a shock because she was supposed to be the "one." Also, when I say the "one" I mean the one in every way, including sex.

So the relationship is over and with regards to my sexual experiences I felt that I was left hanging in midair. I had waited so long to find that special person to experience sexual intimacy with but it felt like I had only gotten half of that experience. It's like half of you is through the door, but you still have not fully walked through that door. Do you understand what I'm saying?

That is why I asked this initial question. I felt that I had only experienced half of what sex with someone special is, but not the whole thing. So I was unsure if I was still a virgin. Fortunately, after reading everyones posts, I've decided that I am a virgin but that I'm also not a virgin

In my opinion I'm simply hanging in mid-air. So if I'm ever asked whether I am a virgin I will respond with "Well, this may sound weird, but I'm somewhere in the middle. I've had oral sex with one other person but I've never had sexual intercourse. I'm not sure how you feel or think about that, but that's the best and most comfortable way for me to describe it."

So there it is. I just wanted to explain myself because I got the idea that some people on this board had the impression that I was an oral sex king and that I was trying to manipulate the word virgin in order to trick people. I hope I cleared things up a bit.

Lastly, thanks for all the advice! I really appreciate it. You all are great!
 
 
     
 
 
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Confused -

If you are ever asked what you are - Be truthful and tell them,

You are one of the finest young men, have a heart of gold, and will bring great joy and true love to anyone's life that you become a part of. That's what you are

You make me smile and give me hope in tomorrow.

Please never change the person you are. Continue to be you. I hope your heart isn't hurting anymore and if it is......you will heal, and that is a promise.

To the very lucky girl out there who is just waiting for Confused25 to enter her life, ....You better be good to him!!! Or Auntie Allheart will need to have a word with you!

You make my heart happy!

Stay true to you.

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If you are seeing a guy and want to be with a special woman later my guess is she may be more angry at you for being with a same sex relationship than if you qualify as a virgin or not. Many girls would rather you been with other girls than A guy. Many girls think and feel this way so don't dismiss or taboo my reply since you want to know what a special lady might consider.
 
 
     
 
 
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If you are seeing a guy and want to be with a special woman later my guess is she may be more angry at you for being with a same sex relationship than if you qualify as a virgin or not. Many girls would rather you been with other girls than A guy. Many girls think and feel this way so don't dismiss or taboo my reply since you want to know what a special lady might consider.
I'm confused here....where did the seeing a guy thing come from?

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NOhelp4U: Don't worry I'm completely heterosexual and will never consider a relationship with another male. Nothing against homosexuality, but its simply not my thing.
 
 
     
 
 
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Oh sorry I misread I thought you said to Choux I am seeing a 22 year old male. Dysklexia set in you said See I am a 22 year old male

Well it is good to wait for that special lady as much as you can and if she is that special she will love you for where you and her are in your relationship and not digging up your past. Most girls now have a past themselves and it is petty to nit pick each others past if you really care about each other.
 
 
     
 
 
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Thanks for sharing a bit of your life here with us, Confused25. In my dating life, I've found it doesn't matter to me if a man has had sex with another woman or even a couple of them, BUT if it's more than 50, I'd be worried he could be a sex addict and unable to settle down with just one woman. I've heard people with multiple partners say they began to feel dirty all the time. Enjoy life, but save something for that real special one that's waiting for you. HuGS

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So if I'm ever asked whether I am a virgin I will respond with "Well, this may sound weird, but I'm somewhere in the middle. I've had oral sex with one other person but I've never had sexual intercourse. I'm not sure how you feel or think about that, but that's the best and most comfortable way for me to describe it."
I would put it this way:

Yes I'm a virgin, but I'm not chaste, I have been intimate with a previous partner.

You do not and should not go into specifics unless asked. If asked how you can consider yourself a virgin, state that you have not engaged in sexual intercourse, just foreplay.
 
 
     


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