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I am currently 25 and have only had one sexually active partner, who I am with now and have been for around 10 months, we started having sex about 2 months ago. At first it was good, the usual getting into it, he knew more than me as he had several previous sex partners.
Recently he has started to ask to if he could see more in stockings, i do actually have some, so I said maybe one day. he asks every now and again, but when I say to him, do you want me in them tonight, he usually says no but sometime it would be good.
Now he has started using the word lingerie, I asked him what he would like, as im unsure myself, and he said anything, as it really turns him on. So still im left a little unsure. My impression was that lingerie is bra and knickers/thong, in which I always have on anyway.
I know at 25, I may seem a little naive here, but this is why I am trying to get help and knowledge...
What is meant by lingerie?
Is this classed as dirty sex?
He knows I am not really a fan of dirty/kinky things, as I am extremely innocent, but when he texts me saying, "I want to see you in lingerie soon" and I reply with, "ok" he will reply something like, "you obviously aren't in the mood, so ill leave you for a while"
I feel as though I can't really always give him what he wants, but then I think if it makes me uncomfortable, why should I? I can't tell if those texts are like pushing for dirty texts, or what?
I just need a little bit of help here where possible, thank you.
You know by granting his wishes you might just get the most mind blowing sex ever, take a trip to la senza and anne summers and buy yourself something really lovely that makes you feel great and then use your imagination
I don't think anything he has suggested is 'dirty' at all.
If you fancy treating him surprise him one day in stocking, suspenders, bra/corset top and kitten heels.
Personally I find lingerie works best if put on before you meet your man. Corsets are nice to wear under dresses as he can feel it when he puts his hand on your lower back. Then you can basically tease him all night out as he wonders what you have on.
Lingerie can be fun! If you are worried buy some that isn't too expensive and just wear it for yourself, dance about the house look at yourself in the mirror.
It's as much about dressing up for you as for him. Like when you get a new top that is cute and sexy. Except only you know about it (and possibly him).
From your post it seems you are nervous about embracing your own sexuality. I think you should build up your confidence away from your boyfriend. Obviously you shouldn't do things you are not comfortable with. But at the same time don't limit yourself.
Eaxactly Temp hense why i suggested la senza and anne summers as a starter nothing wrong in wearing nice undies for yourself my god its a great ego boost.
The imagination is a great thing so is the art of conversation sex is about two people after all and pleasing eachother not just one party.
its soft, isnt going to be scratchy, isnt binding, doesnt require undoing hooks, clasps, or ties, and its fun to peel off her body.
if he is interested in leggings, you can tie those into something like a tasteful babydoll... some styles you might not care for, but some can be flattering when done right.
i really dont think hes trying to push you too hard into something youll hate... but he does seem to have a few visual ideas in mind. i love watching my wife get dressed or undressed. i love watching her shower. its not dirty, at least in my mind. guys are just visual morons. you can play off his desires and hopefully have fun too. the running joke in my house is all i want for my birthday is a sexy set of panties/bra or lingerie... for my wife of course, but thats all i really want bought for my bday.
my partner hates permanent tattoos... but shell get temp tattoos online and sometimes place a rose or butterfly or something like that toward her hip, just below or peeking above the pantyline. i love it. just as you might do your nails or change your hair, its a nice little surprise.
same with lingerie. some stuff youll hate... but theres stuff out there that is tastefully made and flattering.
what about him? you can always buy him silk boxers.
Another outlet is Fredericks of Hollywood. But I think your man wants you to surprise him. I don't think he wants you to ask if now is a good time. That kind of dampers the mood. He wants to come home from work and find you in a sheer teddy with garters ans stockings or something similar. Or for him to be in bed and you com slinking in wearing some lacy piece of froth.
Yes bras and panties are part of lingerie, but the category includes stockings, nighties, etc.
Browse the catalogs, go shopping and surprise him. I think you will be surprised at the result
Just a thought though if you dont want to spend a fourtune you could always go to you local tk maxx they do a great selection and alot of designer stuff for less
Yeah, I got that when she equated knickers and thongs. On the other side of the pond, knickers are NOT considered sexy. But Fredericks does most of its business, mail order.
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