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My husband and I have been married for over 10 years. Since being married, I sometimes experience pain following intercourse, especially after having been on top. Prior to our marriage I never had unprotected sex, however my husband did. I talked with my doctor, and just in case I had her check for herpes, syphilis, AIDS, gonorrhea, chlamydia, PID, and HPV. All the tests returned negative. I have had several conversations with my husband asking him to not ejaculate inside of me. However he will not listen. He tells me I ask him to pull out too late, even though he is aware that I do not want him doing it in the first place. I have asked him several times if we could just use condoms, however he simply refuses.
Although I am an average sized woman, I have always been rather small down there. My husband is somewhat amused by this, as he is well endowed. My husband’s penis is quite unique in that it is shaped a lot like the letter J or the letter U. I love this about him; it’s different, I like it a lot. I have asked the doctors if they thought the shape of my husband’s penis could be the problem, and they said absolutely not. They said the female and male sexual organs, even erect, are quite flexible. I have no choice except to believe them, as I have been with men who were... shall I say, more endowed than my husband, with little to no pain afterwards, other than what was anticipated.
Now, whenever my husband wants sex, I want to run away. I have refused him in the past, however, he just waits until I fall asleep and forces himself on me. It should not be this way. Sex is important to him and to our marriage; and it used to be important to me.
I saw a program on TV yesterday where a woman claimed she was allergic to her husband’s sperm. Has anyone ever heard of someone being allergic to sperm? Does this really happen? Could this be the problem? Has anyone else experienced a situation like this?
"Forces himself on you" is RAPE, whether or not you're married.
The entire tone of your question suggests to me that your relationship is not a healthy one. Have you spoken to your doctor about your relationship at all?
Woman, you have got to kick your husband out! It doesn't matter if you are married or not, if you say no, the answer is no. He has no right forcing himself on you, that is rape!
To me it sounds like he is just into you for your sex. He doesn't seem to be a very good man, he has no care in your feelings and what you like and don't like.
You have every right to refuse sex without a condom! You have every right to say no, and if he still forces himself on you, you phone the police and charge him.
I think you should just kick him out until he learns how what he did is wrong!
Yes, I have talked to my doctor, and so has my husband. We dealt with the issue of force in the past. This has not happened in a long time and my husband has seen the err of his ways. She however agrees with him in that I almost want something to be wrong, which I don't, I just know something is. She asked me how I would feel if he constantly accused me of giving him a disease. She thinks I put a tremendous amount of pressure on him. Maybe I do, but I have good reason. This makes you right in the fact that this is not a healthy relationship.
Most of my problem I believe stems from the fact that my brother had AIDS. He did not die from AIDS, but had it when he died. I thought I learned something from his death, but now I have to accept I learned nothing. Who wants to think that the first time in life they let their guard down, (i.e., had sex without a condom,) they got something. Sometimes it is what it is. People tend to shy away from things they know are going to hurt. It is like going to the dentist. You know it is going to hurt so you don’t want to go. This feels the same way. I know ultimately if I left my husband, any other man is only going to want the same thing. Really, is there a man who wants a relationship and doesn’t want sex?
get rid of the jerk, he is raping you if he is forcing you to have sex when you don't want to have sex. A divorce attorney is just a waiting for your call. You would get what ever you wanted out of the deal, I do believe. And yes, there is such a thing as a sperm allergy.
As the physicans on Oprah said, an allergy to sperm is extremely rare, and people try to convince their partner they are allergic to their partner in some way to satisfy an ulterior motive of some kind. Remember the man who said his wife gave him small red bumps on his skin? A blind study experiment was done and showed that when he didn't know his wife's hands were on him, he *didn't* get the red bumps!!!
Anyway, are you saying that your husband is raping you?
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