My husband loves me, I know this. But I don't feel he gives a good effort when we are in bed. He knows I do not orgasm with him but doesn't try. He wants sex often because this is how he feels loved. I do better on my own and feel like sex is a chore sometimes. We have been married 6 years and I have never orgasmed with him. I know it is difficult for me to orgasm with a partner but not impossible. I think he gave up trying 5 years ago. We tried oral but that doesn't do it for me. He doesn't like to use a vibrator on me, don't know why. Is their anything I can tell him to motivate him or how do I motivate myself to have sex when I know the out come?