I recently found a dildo my husband had packed in his gym bag (along with lube). I know he likes to use this, though never around me, cause it kind of turns me off. This is not the first time I've discovered a dildo (once in the back of my car, about 2 years ago. He bought it when I was out of town with our children). He says he just uses it on himself. Could he be having an affair? Is he gay? I am having trouble trusting him, because he always seems to be hiding something from me. I have not passed judgment on his dildo use, just would rather not know too much about it. But taking it out of the house? I don't know what to think!