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I recently found a dildo my husband had packed in his gym bag (along with lube). I know he likes to use this, though never around me, cause it kind of turns me off. This is not the first time I've discovered a dildo (once in the back of my car, about 2 years ago. He bought it when I was out of town with our children). He says he just uses it on himself. Could he be having an affair? Is he gay? I am having trouble trusting him, because he always seems to be hiding something from me. I have not passed judgment on his dildo use, just would rather not know too much about it. But taking it out of the house? I don't know what to think!
He and I would have to have a serious talk. I can think of only one reason a man would have such a thing and enjoy the use of it.
He would not be touching me again. There are men who's gates are swining both ways If you know what I mean. He would have an awful lot of explaining to do and I would be getting myself checked for ant STDs. Don't ignore something like that. That is some serious stuff.
I guess if my spouse didn't like something sexually that I did (that didn't involve cheating)--I'd just do it away from him.
That being said...if it bothers you, you need to talk to him. If the two of you do NOT talk about it, it could lead to greated problems--like the lack of trust you talk about.
He and I would have to have a serious talk. I can think of only one reason a man would have such a thing and enjoy the use of it.
He would not be touching me again. There are men who's gates are swining both ways If you know what I mean. He would have an awful lot of explaining to do and I would be getting myself checked for ant STDs. Don't ignore something like that. That is some serious stuff.
Wow, I'm sorry but I'm going to have to disagree with you. Some straight men like their prostates pleasured. Which of course is done through some sort of anal stimulation. Just because he has a dildo does not mean he is gay. (And just my thought, if he were gay and having an affair, why would he need a dildo?) If you were a man, and you found out that your woman had a dildo, would you assume she is having an affair? The OP already stated that this kind of thing turns her off, so I'm sure he is just fulfilling his need on his own.
Well he could be using that someone else too. It would still bother me. How would does she know he not only does it to himself but has someonelse use it on him.
I could be wrong. I just find a man poking himself in the butt creepy.
No I don't. A penis is what goes there. (in the vagina that is) I find it creepy that a man wants a penis up his butt. I mean what caused him to think "Hmm a penis in my butt would feel good."
first we were discussing sex toys, now we're talking about penises?
You might find it strange that many women like toys in their anuses as well?
I'm not sure if I get your point-how would you determine whether one type of sexual practise is more or less "nice" than what you like/dislike? Sexuality is different for different people.
I know people like different things, I just find somethings creepy and unappealing and anal sex is one of them.
If I found out my husband was sticking dildos up his butt that would freak me out. I would be wondering what made him think he would enjoy that.
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