My husband and i have only been married for 4 months and he already doesn't want sex!
I've tried everything, but he still doesn't want it . It's come to 2 or 3 times a month , this all started about the second month after we were married . Before we were married we were engaged for 1 1/2 yrs. and he lived far away so i would only see him on weekends and it was hot then no problem ! But now i don't know what to do . he comes home and wants to sleep all afternoon , no time for us , sometimes i cry of desperation .Is he not in to me any more ?

letmetellu

This is just an idea but he could be having some kind of medical problem, maybe he is depressed, maybe financial problems. or maybe he just needs some prompting. And I do mean serious prompting, their are not many guys that resist a female that is playing intimate games with his privates and the results are pretty hard to hide, pardon the pun. There have been many times I had no desire...until that little push.

Fr_Chuck

And he could be tired from working all day,, what type of work schedule does he have, is it a high stress job? And yes, while it would be nice for men to have the energy to have sex three or four times a day, life often tires one or both partners out. And since you are still having sex it appears he still loves and desires you, but he has real life looking at him everyday, and now on weekends also there are things he and you need or have to do that is not the same dating mode as you used to have.

I believe you need to look and be equally concerned over what he is doing and if he is comming home from working all night, perhaps you need to be working or staying awake on his same schedule.
I say this since you say he comes hom and sleeps in the afternoon, which makes it appear he works nights. If you are sleeping while he is at work, why not you stay up all night and live on his schedule, gives you more time and more understanding of the work.

This is some guesses, since I can only see what is said not all the other details

Jimmy Maps

I feel for you its very rough having a spouse that has no sexual desire for you and when you say somthing about it they just shrug you off as sex crazed. Not that i'm not but I think once a month has gotten to be a killer and it stinks. I'm sorry that you have to deal with it too i wish i could be of more help.