Hi,

My problem is, I am shy to make the first move to have sex with my husband. In my past relationship I was shy too but I had more often sex with my past partners and it was not a problem to start having sex. My husband is kind of wired when it comes to sex. He does not like having sex after a meal, also before we go to bed, after a movies etc... mostly he likes to have sex in the morning after showering, but for me I want to get ready for the day, and he also he busy doing staff, working after shower. I do not know when I can make the first move, because when I am really in the mood for sex, it is a time when I assume, think or know this is not a good time for him, I am already insecure about this... we just have once every 2 weeks sex and we got married this March...
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Thanks a lot for your help

What my wife and I do is have DATE days. Either one of us can ask the other for a date and it will go from there. Usually a glass of wine and a sit down talk , as if we were dating.
This can happen anytime of the day or night.

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Originally Posted by shivasb

Hi,

my problem is, I am shy to make the first move to have sex with my husband. in my past relationship I was shy too but I had more often sex with my past partners and it was not a problem to start having sex. my husband is kind of wired when it comes to sex. he does not like having sex after a meal, also before we go to bed, after a movies etc...mostly he likes to have sex in the morning after showering, but for me I want to get ready for the day, and he also he busy doing staff, working after shower. I do not know when I can make the first move, because when I am really in the mood for sex, it is a time when I assume, think or know this is not a good time for him, I am already insecure about this...we just have once every 2 weeks sex and we got married this March...
:(
thanks a lot for your help

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Invite him into a night time shower!! Light candles in the bathroom and everything. Find out if it is the morning thing or the shower that he really likes. It seems like there are too many conditions to meet to get it on. What on earth would you do if you had any kids?? It is just not going to work like that all the time. Do something about it now you are at a time in your life where there should be far more sex in your marriage than there is at present. Good luck sweetie

Sometimes when I am in the mood but it just doesn't happen, which kind of sucks. In the middle of the night I will kiss his lips and his neck and rub on him and whisper in his ear that I want him. Sometimes I have to talk a little louder but he will wake up and I tell him that I couldn't sleep cause I wanted him so badly. That turns him on right away and we go from there. Also, I bought some sexy lingerie that I will only wear sometimes. I will put it on and he will practically chase me down. But my husband tries pretty much every night or day to get me. So most of the time I don't have a problem. The best si the middle of the night thing that is so hot.