I've been thinking I may want to abstain from sex until marriage, or something marriage-oriented. I've been dating and had boyfriends for 25 years now. I am 42.
I just feel like every guy I get involved with lately - it's only good between us for a few months.
There's a whole pattern to it that I noticed.

But my question is, how would I bring it up to my boyfriend, who I love, and how could I say it without hurting his feelings?

I'm very attracted to him and we have outstanding sex. It's just that I feel now that having sex with someone I'm not in a committed relationship with is bad for my spiritual, emotional, and mental health.
I feel we are right for each other in many ways, and want to continue spending time together and dating until we decide if we are interested in marriage together or not.
I'm thinking if I abstain from sex with my boyfriend, our chances of one day having a wonderful love-filled marriage are much higher.

Then there's the flip-side of well what about his needs. Yeah, I know. Honestly, no, I couldn't live with him sleeping with other women while we were still dating. That would just be a sure-fire way for us to break-up, and I'm trying to avoid that so... a bit of a dilemma.