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well, what do you mean about sex? intercourse? oral? manual with partner?
as stated, desire can vary... many things are tied to libido... poor sleep, stress, problems outside the bedroom often cause "less desire" in the bedroom.
personally, three times a week (intercourse) is my general desire... but i love giving oral on my partner and could do this every single morning if she wished for it... but my desire is higher than hers so thats that.
when there's been stress, frustration... the desire is lower. other times, enough isnt enough.
personally, id rather have a sensual "makeout session" every other night in trade with a full body massage on my partner. i just love my hands on a womans skin, even if an orgasm isnt in the plans. it calms me. centers me.
doesnt hurt that it might relax her enough for sex either.
but i love to kiss more than my partner. too bad. lips are lovely things.
It helps that we both have healthy drives (and reasonibly closely matched too) as well....its a great stress reducer. THis is why I recomend dating couples with wildly differing drives to move on before they get to far into it. You are what you are and its best to find someone who has a matching drive as well. Otherwise there will be constant fighting, one wants more, the other wants less....and the stress that brings along with lifes other stresses. Oh We have our share of stresses but this is one area where we rarely disagree.
i do agree that its best when drives are close... problem is the early stages of relationships often mask differences.
for ex... when dating my wife, she was more than willing to stay up late at night to get time to make time.
turns out, shes a morning girl... 5am is perfect for her. me... im primed at 10pm. so... her behavior wasnt "wrong"... she just was willing to "work a little harder" at the "catch" phase.
most sexual relationships require some compromise and some communication. obviously, the better you are "naturally matched" the easier it is.
best sex ive had was with a girl who was almost lock in step with my interests, desires, and frequency.
doesnt mean a "mismatch" cannot work... just means more mental work and openness.
unfortunately, sometimes this doesnt come out until a few years into a relationship...
Well, being recently divorced it's been a while, in fact too long. And I'm raring to go! This is not an advertisement, lol, just an honest answer to your question!
Just curious. Also, please let us know what kind of relationship you are in (ie., dating, engaged, married, etc.) and your age.
Can I ask YOU a question? Why are you asking this? Are you trying to create an average? Are you using US to get you MORE? Is he/she telling you once a week is enough? You say "let us know", so just wondering.
As for us, it's anywhere from 3-7 times a week. Married 10 years. Me 47, she 42. Still in love, still in like.
Wondergirl agrees: That's why I asked early on who is "us." I'm really quite amazed at all the responses he/she has gotten.
Yes, Wondergirl, I am actually amazed at MYSELF for answering. I guess I'm not shy, and actually proud of that statistic. However, it would be nice to know WHO we're talking to. Or WHY this was answered. Maybe it's a psyche study on willingness to share intimate details.
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