My friend just told me she suspects that her boyfriend is gay.
She said he's kind of soft on his actions and on how he says things. And he seems to be very interested on guys. Gives good looking guys a second look at the malls, etc.

They had sex already and she doesnt seem to have a problem in bed with him but that sometimes he loves to get a bj than get into her..

So is he gay?

fredg

Hi, angelfire,
The boy could be bi-sexual, meaning liking both men and women.
Why doesn't your friend ask him? If he isn't concerned about satisfying his partner, it could be that he is just plain "selfish".
Your friend needs to talk with him, find out for herself how he feels.
Best of luck.

angelfire

She already asked him and he said he's not gay. Do you think that he would tell the truth if he was gay, knowing that Philippine Culture is sooo conservative and so not open to bisexualism?

DrJizzle

or he may actually NOT be gay.... and just be a little femine
or he may BE gay and not know it yet
or he may be gay and just not "out of the closet" yet

Unfortunately, there is no proven method of knowing that someone is gay.

angelfire

Do gay people feel "icky" when they have sex with the opposite sex?

DrJizzle

First, it depends on whether or not he is a homosexual or bisexual. If he is bisexual, ten he would be attracted to both men and women.

If he is homosexual, then there is a possiblity that he could find women "icky."

(However, this brings up another issue which I would say that even a full-fledged homosexual man would NOT be find sex with women repulsive... at least not the same way that heterosexual men find sex with men repulsive. This would lead into the way of male/female energy.... where men are naturally "attractED" and women are naturally "attractIVE." Which also explains how women are attracted to other women. But thats a debate for another thread lol)

Back to the question, you cant rule out the fact that he MIGHT be gay simply becuase he still enjoys sex with women.

Fr_Chuck

Ok, there are many "gay" men who have been married for years and love thier wives deeply, they enjoy sex withwomen but have also a desire for men.

And each person and case is different, and many men have what is considered more non male actions, this does not make them gay, only not ashamed to show some of thier feelings. Growing up in my generatoin, men can't cry, they cant show a women how they feel, somebody on here actually said the only way to make a women want you, is to treat her bad. ( really) so this guy may just not be ashamed to show how he feels about things, it can also be a culture thing, depending on his ethnic background.

And of course there are some people who enjoy both men and women.
He could also be looking at thier clothes, hairstyles, or feeling not as good.
I love clothes and will even stop people at times to ask them about thier clothes.

Now she has asked, so if he is, he does not want her to know, my guess he is not, since today there is little reason to lie.

talaniman

Is her boyfreind gay? He probably doesn't know himself!

Jesushelper76

Does it really even matter. There are some man that have show their emotions more easily, are very sensitive, have soft hearts and show it on their sleeves and yes even cry. Does that make somebody gay. Nope. Now if this person is looking at other guys well maybe, but who really knows. We can not tell. You can not tell and I think your friend might be over reacting.

smoothy

Most guys love a BJ, particularly if the woman is good at it. Sometimes more than other acts, that doesn't make him gay. Now checking out the butts of guys walking by, not thats a good sign he likes the other side as well.