How do I get over my boyfriend watching porn?

Is it effecting your sex life with him? If it has no effect on your relationship with him just let it go.

Get used to it, guys watch porn, he said he would stop because you most likely threw a fit over it, And he figures he could do it and you not find out.

Several issues, don't tell him he can't watch. Don't ask him not to watch, it is something he does, something he wants to do, and it is not your place to make him change.

Stop checking his history, do you want him to question every site you ever go to ? Guys will leave when they think you are doing things like that.

How about watching porn with him, ask him to let you be part of it perhaps,

Its starting to effect my sex life cause he will watch it rather than have sex with me. An I don't feel as turned on knowing he's watching ex gf sites an teen sites with girls that are hotter than me. An I don't know if I can watch it wit him. I feel really uncomfortable about the way my breast look an I dont like looking at my bf looking at woman with better looking breast then mine. an saw I do watch it with him, will it help him stop watching it so much or every single time I'm not home?

Like Fr_Chuck said....get used to it...he's an adult and has the right to his entertainment.

First..its NOT about you....so don't act like it is...99.9% of guys will back me up there...if he didn't like you, he wouldn't be with you.

Its about #1, variety, and #2 the fact guys are hardwired to be visual. We genetically, have a predisposition to like seeing naked women (or guys for the gay ones).

He isn't comparing you to anyone....and its actually good that that every women don't look exactly alike.

Guys can like blonde's, brunets AND redheads....they can like small medium and large breasts at the same time...they can even like White, Asian, AND black women.

And look at it this way....watching porn with him...you can watch all sorts of different guys too, and get ideas for new things you might like to try you never thought of. Works for me AND my wife....

And if you have been having an attitude around him about this....I guarantee you, it might be the reason hes pulling away from you....Guys REALLY hate being told what we can and can't watch.....and we really hate being nagged about it....and besides al of that...if you have self esteme issues...you have to deal with them yourself...and not push blame for them on other things.....thats exactly the same as dealing with a really serious infection on your arm by wearing a long sleeve shirt rather than dealing with the infection itself. To deal with the problem you have to acknoledge your problem and deal with it. And if you are blaming it on other things your aren't dealing with it.

If you can't feel good about yourself...nothing anyone else can do will change it

I would normally suggest "no, you shouldn't", only because you've been down this road before. But, since you've been snooping, I think, yes, you should confront him one last time. Get it off your chest, tell him how you feel. But, do not make any demands this time. Just use this opportunity as a therapeutic catharsis. That's it, nothing more.

After this, stop snooping!
It's going to hurt every time you find a porn site in his history; stop torturing yourself!

Yes, move on. I don't know of any guy out there, in a relationship or single, who doesn't look at porn. I think it has since been accepted as a usual plight for a girlfriend.

This is the correct course of action. Once your nerves settle down, you'll be able to make sounder judgements on your boyfriend's intentions and how he feels about the relationship. Right now, when you tell us that "it's a affecting your sex life", I have a hard time believing this is the case and, instead, it's just reaction, because, you sound so hurt by this.

I do see where your coming from, women are sensitive about these things, and he's not doing a great job at hiding it from you. So, I won't accuse you of being selfish, but I will accuse you of self-masochism by trying to find out information that you know is going to hurt.

You are pushing each other away.

He looks at porn and you know it so you get upset (reasons don't really matter at this point) and back off because you don't feel as sexy so he turns to porn...and the cycle repeats.

Your breasts are your own and unique to you. No woman has better looking or worse looking breasts than you do because we are all different and that is part of what makes them great. It's like comparing two different apples. The apples that look the closest to identical are the ones that have been genetically manipulated for generations until they are extremely close to being fake (like the characters in porn.)

Do you enjoy romance books and movies with male characters who give your libido a little kick and start your imagination building fantasy worlds? That is what erotica in all of its many forms (including porn) does for a lot of people.

If you don't masturbate, I encourage you to start. For women it is a great way to learn about our own bodies and learn to find ourselves attractive. If we love ourselves then that translates into confidence which is one of the sexiest things a woman can wear. It can also help you find what turns you on and can help you develop fantasies to share with your boyfriend.

Talk to him about his fantasies. Understand that watching porn is like reading a romance. It just appeals to the more masculine desire to get to the point instead of the feminine desire for character and plot development. However, there is more and more porn geared to the 'female' viewer. It might be something for you to check out as a couple.

Stop shutting each other out and communicate. Work together instead of making demands.

Me and my boyfriend watch porn together, gives us some new ideas and it is fun to get turned on together. If he watches it by himself i reap the rewards later if you know what i mean lol

I agree watch some together, first remember * both remember* this is not real, and most adults can not do 1/2 of the things they do. But they can lighten things, make things fun and give some great ideas of role playing, if you have not been the naughty school girl, or he has not been the police officer ( or you the police women) making a traffic stop, you have no lived.
** well in my book anyway.

Play games, go out to a bar or someplace, and let him pretend to "pick you up" using all those corny lines and so on.

You should be allowed to tell him to stop, especially if it is bothering you.
If he cares, he will stop because it bothers you.
Not all men need porn to be truly happy. You sound like you want a relationship with a man who doesn't need it.
My boyfriend does not watch porn and I know this because I am with him most of the time and know where he is when we are separated (its not because I want to know or be with him 24/7 either lol. I ask for my space). He lets me know what's going on while I am at school and tells me almost everything about his life because he has accepted the fact I'm just extremely curious about different things.
An honest relationship is good if it is serious enough and you will both have to talk if he will accept the fact he can not do this anymore or you will have to accept the fact he has to "be a guy"
Hopefully this kinda helps or gives you an idea or a different perspective. I have been in my relationship for a little over a year too, and he is 23 atm while I am only 19. You may say I have not had my share of experiences. Well, maybe I have not to certain extremes, but this is just my experience with a guy who I believe knows how not to disrespect me and accept what I disapprove of.

I sincerely hope your relationship is as good as you think it is, but I caution you to look at how restrictive and controlling your relationship appears to be from what you have said here.

To the op, neither of you should dictate to the other person what is or is not allowed in the relationship. If you cannot communicate and work together to find a compromise, then don't try to bend him to your will. In most relationships such behavior ends up causing major issues. Either work together or get out before negative emotions take over.

If you have to know what your boyfriend or husband are doing every minute of every day, then there are insecurity and trust issues in the relationship. Like grains of sand in water, it may take awhile but the doubts will wear away at the patience and love in a relationship.

Good luck to both of you.