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I've had herpes since I was 15, I was raped. Anyway I've told almost all of my partners since then until my ex, R. I got really drunk one night and forgot. I didn't tell him. After that I was afraid to tell him. I fell in love. I never did tell him. He's really good friends with my other ex, B. B told R on accident and now R is trying to take legal action on me because he recently found out that he has it as well. Is that possible? And also, is that fair? He's had UNPROTECTED sex with over 45 girls. And one in four people have it. Is it wrong of me to be a little pissed that he is completely blaming me? I understand that I made a mistake but jail time? What are the laws on that anyway?
okay, when you had sex with him, were the lesions present?
I would say, this would be seen as hearsay (that you have herpes). just because a friend told him-it could be viewed as rumour-you would have to say whether you do or don't. Also, I'd hazard a guess that he caught it elsewhere as he has only now recognised he has it AFTER he was told??? sounds to suspect for me. I'd say, call his stupid bluff-he cannot prove anything unless you yourself expressly told him that you have the disease.
Depends on your state, in some states there are criminal charges for not telling a partner. Yes he can sue you in civil court for this, They will be able to get your medical records into file and so on.
The one time drunk could be excuses past that, I can't see why you don't think you are wrong.
No, there were no lesions present and yes I do have the disease. I did tell him after he'd already found out and yes, I believe I did somethign wrong. But it seems a little extreme to press charges on me. Especially since the chances that I gave it to him are slim considering that 1 in 4 people have the disease and he's had unprotected sex wiht 45 women, that would suggest that at least 11 of them had it.
Like I said-call his bluff, and then threaten to counter -sue that he is defaming or even, stalking you by spreading rumours.
if you really want to get technical tell him to get the DNA profile of the strain he has and see if yours is the exact chromotype-that should sort him out as far as how serious he really is with all of this (this is IF you indeed did admit you had the disease TO HIM specifcally)
I did personally tell him. And he is stalking and defaming. He calls me sometimes 30 times a night, until I have to unplug all of the phones. He held me hostage and verbally abused me and so I broke up with him, so he feels the need to file a suit against me.
right so he's a friggin nutbag-I think you need police intervention and record the calls etc. you are being victimised and this would look REALLY bad for him in such a case.
get help from the police-NOW
you having herpes is irellevant in this case in comparison to this freak!
File a stalking report with local police dept. Just give the basic facts; you broke up, he continues to call and follows you everywhere and your concerned about your well being.
I think all the cases where legal action has been brought against a person with an STI has been with a person knowingly and maliciously spreading HIV. Herpes, as far as illnesses go, is more of an annoyance than anything.
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