Help me please doctors very serious psychological issue ?

you r compeltly right but i don't want him to do that just cuz i like it i want him to belive in that too and i explore that he doesn't like it so we would never do that thats why i cant tell him i like it he is not rigd at all he is very good man to me loving caring gentle open minded too but he doesnt want to hurt me as any gentlman i'm the one is sicko and ask for wierd stuff

You are not sick, and you are not weird. Stop thinking that. Exploring sexuality, likes and dislikes is a natural human thing! If you can't share your deepest desires with the one you love, than who can you share them with. Maybe try asking him about some of his fantasies?

If you are sick, so is the whole freaking world. Look, don't be frustrated, many of us have partners that don't go along with everything we want, but we reach solutions, and compromise by talking and finding alternatives.

I think finding out about his fantasies is a great approach to learning, which is essential to growing.

THE problem is i don't want him to do that just for me i want he to belive in that too and he doesnt if i tod him i like it sure he going to do it but i dont like it i want him to do that cuz he like it also

I haven't read this whole thread, so maybe someone else suggested this: Start small, role-play. Do gentle and perhaps romantic role-plays at first -- secretary seducing her boss or a flight attendant seducing a pilot. Then you could dress up as a schoolgirl and he as a headmaster. You could be sent to the headmaster's office because you were naughty. Maybe a scenario like that would help him become more used to what you want with gentle spanking, and how you are thinking and feeling.

Merrr, what did you tell him about what you found? Did you explain that you are interested in 'punishment' as a part of sex? Could he be envisioning a child/parent type of scenario instead of what you really want?

It sounds like he may want an equal partner. To him, you may be asking to be treated as less than an equal in every day life. It is to his credit that he sees you as more than a possession. I hope you ultimately see yourself as more, too.

You seem caught up on 'punishment'. Spanking doesn't have to be 'punishment'. It can be all about sensation just like caresses, tickling, pinching, scratching, kissing, licking, nipping, etc. Since I don't think you quite know what you want or at least how far you want it to go, why don't you ask him about exploring 'other' sensations such as 'pats' instead 'spanks'?

i know what i want cat i feel i want it for punishment and maybe for funn and sex that's why i see i'm wierd cuz noone like it for punishment i can't tell him " i like it " i just give him a suggestion i told him when he asked me if i have any ideas for punishment and rules i told him once i have seen someone over website says that he spanked his woman then he say those ppl r very crazy so i didnt contniuie about wut i want cuz i see he refuse it

i have told him yestrday about my needs and we got a very very big big fight and he has cursing me allot for that say bad names to me also . i just told him the following " sometimes i feel i need u to be strict and bad guy with me hahhaha then i told him when i have read those ppl who talkin about spanking discipline i think i like it and i wanna try one then i couldn't imagine i have said that they i said but when i imagine it with u i feel its gonna hurt so i dont want it hahhaha then i laugh he thought im kidding and he was so nice when i told him i'm not kidding he getting mad and say names and see that i'm crazy he tried to understand my needs while he say its bad and u have to forgot bad need like that so i stop answer all his question and thats wut getting him mad at me and after that i told him its just crazy thought i'm not like that to make him calm down but i'm still need it badddddddddddddddddddly crrrrrrrrrrry i have crying since yestrday since we have got a fight and he stop talkin with me cuz he is really angry he thought i dont tell him all and how i need him bad guy with me but i meant strict i couldnt tell him in deatils sure and when i told about spanking i said i think its gonna hurt to not let him ask me HOW U LIKE IT HELP PLEASE i have fed up with that and i asked for it finally

Give him some time to calm down. Remember this is a shock to him.

While you are letting him calm down, think about his reaction and whether or not you can spend the rest of your life possibly denying your needs if he can't or won't understand them. Does this have any affect on how you feel about him?

yes i began to deny it already i act as i don't need it and i told him i didn't mean wut i have said to make him calm down but inside my heart i felt so so badly i need it i couldn't expect he wouldn't understand crrrrrrrrrrrrrrry i thought sure he gonna like it