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I've been wondering as of late if my hubby is gay..we have been through a lot and I've been trying to figure out where this tension is coming from. He used to want sex everyday..not a problem cuz its always good but then he would complain its not enough..WHAT! Then he lost interest, stopped making advances. He spends more time cuddling his privates than he does me. He loved for me to strap one on for him..so much that I became concerned! It was about me bangin him. Then I started to see little things..the way he walks, runs and makes love. Its quick and selfish on his part. Not like before. He walks kinda girly he likes to wear cut off shirts and no belt in public/work. Its like he loves to show off his pecker trail to all the dudes at work..and btw they all make gay cracks to eachother. His mother/grandmother were begining to worry that he would nvr marry. He's very manly in other respects..he's a good handyman, he's into cars and he's great with the kids.(I'm expecting our 5th child. 3 from my previous marriage) I can't even think of all I want to say..feel like im rambling.he gets lit up whenever he talks about a particular buddy..who when ge comes to visit he will NVR come inside! This guy, since I've been around has nvr had a girlfriend.(I've been with my hubby for over 3 yrs.). His grandma has even made a statment about our 2yr.old.."wouldn't it be aomthin if this one turns out to be gay!?" what does that mean!?!?! Help me! I need some direction. I dnt wnt to live a lie. I stay home..I do it all from lunch,dishes dwn to mow the lawn..Idnt wnt to be the one who is here for convenience rather than love..I love him deeply.. What do I do?
Cutoff shirts went out of fashion among macho guys in the 70's....definately wishy-washy there. Definately effiminant these days...ripped off sleeves is fine....but midriff baring is a no-no in the macho crowd.
but the OP needs to be careful about overanalyzing things too.....if you look hard enough for something convinced its there evenually you will find it even if it doesn't exist.
Exactly right, I would swear and declare some of my friends were gay by some of their actions and even what they wear but I know for sure they are not.
If your man liked to have anal sex via a strap on and you didnt mind doing it, it does not make him gay.
He just likes the feel, just as many women and men might.
Now, if you play detective and check with your local police and sheriff's office to see if he has been picked up in any parks after dark with other men, or caught in parked cars behind the supermarket with some guy who's name you dont recognize, then he may be venturing out into that life style.
MANY MANY men are doing this behind the family and get away with it for years b4 being caught.
Seriously, do a public records check at your local police or sheriff's office. it is a good place to start your little investigation.
If he comes up clean, you have the right to research cell phone logs and computer usage.
Maybe put a key logger onto your computer. This is a sure way to see what he is researching, looking at and typing to people while on line.
Pray about it. God will answer you if you are sincere.
If you think your husband could be gay because of the way he talks, walks, dresses, makes love, and has a single male friend that he won't bring in your home, then you need to sit your husband down and just ask him about it.
Nothing that you have said proves anything. You will not satisfy your need to know, unless it comes from him.
While I can see putting a key logger, or checking with the PD in your area, that would be a last resort, because I don't see that you have much to go on, and it may just simply be better to talk to him. Not his mother, not his grandmother, but him.
If he won't sit and talk, write him a letter, send him an email, hire a babysitter for the night and take him out to a restaurant and open up some meaningful dialogue. I can imagine with 4 kids and one on the way there isn't much quiet time for either of you.
Maybe he's got some hangups about having sex while you are pregnant, maybe he's stressed out at work, maybe he has some sort of erectile dysfunction, maybe he's worried about supporting a family of 7, I know I sure would be.
If your man liked to have anal sex via a strap on and you didnt mind doing it, it does not make him gay.
He just likes the feel, just as many women and men might.
Now, if you play detective and check with your local police and sheriff's office to see if he has been picked up in any parks after dark with other men, or caught in parked cars behind the supermarket with some guy who's name you dont recognize, then he may be venturing out into that life style.
MANY MANY men are doing this behind the family and get away with it for years b4 being caught.
Seriously, do a public records check at your local police or sheriff's office. it is a good place to start your little investigation.
If he comes up clean, you have the right to research cell phone logs and computer usage.
Maybe put a key logger onto your computer. This is a sure way to see what he is researching, looking at and typing to people while on line.
Pray about it. God will answer you if you are sincere.
that is a serious invasion of privacy and if he found out about he would have every reason to be upset. something like that can ruin a relationship.
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