Hello, everyone. This is my first time posting on here and I normally don't tell strangers about my problems but I figured it would be easier to do this and get unbiased advice. I have been dating my boyfriend for close to three years and living with him for a little over a year. We have had many trials and tribulations, but, for the most part, things have been good. We get along, but almost if I swallow my feelings and talk only about superficial things. Sometimes, we have good conversations, but for the most part, he's always working, so I just do things by myself.

He is soon to be 25 and I'm 27 years old. I have never dated a younger man before. When we first started dating, things were great. But his age showed when all he wanted to do was party with his friends and drink himself to death. Not only that, but he would lie to me about it because he didn't want to deal with me being upset by it. We got over that hump and he's been more of a homebody than when we first started dating. Here's the clincher: we hardly ever have sex! I practically have to beg him. Now, I know some of you may think, Well, maybe he's cheating. I guess you never know, but I just feel like he's not doing that at all. He says he's busy with work and that he'll get past this stage. But, I feel like the way he conveys that to me, he is basically rejecting me and it hurts me deeply and saddens me. I am, by no means, unattractive. In fact, not to sound narcissistic, but many men find me extremely attractive. The only time, lately, that we have sex is when we both go out and get drunk together. I am a very sexual woman and also adventurous. I just don't feel that it's fair that when HE wants it, I have to give it. I usually give in, because, as aforementioned, I enjoy sex. Also, he looks at porn and it makes me so mad that the day before, he rejects me, but then I find out that he masturbated the very next day. I use a vibrator, but that is really starting to get boring. I don't want to cheat on him... I really don't. I do want to be with him, but I don't know how much longer I can be patient. Right now, I'm not financially stable enough to move out... not that I'm using him for shelter. But, I guess I would like to think that there's hope.

Please give your thoughts and advice concerning this matter. Has this happened to anyone else out there?