i have masterbated , but not had sex. have i broken my hymen?

ABBYKEWL · Mar 22, 2008, 01:17 PM

i really want to be a virgin for my husband when we get married , but i have fingered myself before , and i am scared that i have broken my hymen.. how can i tell??? i have also used tampons .. but never a dildo or anything bigger than my fingers. help me please.. i am gonna freak out.

kraz · Mar 23, 2008, 01:15 PM

I disagree with Choux, NOT all women "bleed on the sheet " with their first sexual experience.

Many girls and teens tear or dilate their hymen while participating in sports like bicycling, horseback riding, gymnastics, but some girls will break their hymens during masturbation or fingering and others can lose their hymens by inserting a tampon. A girl may not even know this has happened. This is due to a fact that there may be little or no blood or pain involved.

You are a virgin until you have sexual intercourse

Credendovidis · Mar 23, 2008, 04:23 PM

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Originally Posted by kraz

I disagree with Choux, NOT all women "bleed on the sheet " with their first sexual experience.

Choux did not say that ! "The only way you can *prove* you are a virgin on your wedding night is if you bleed on the sheet from a broken hymen due to penile penetration" does not mean that you have to "bleed on the sheet" on your weddingnight, but that bleeding at that time is the only way to prove you are a virgin.
But taking it from there - and if bleeding is essential to keep the marriage from failing (in which case you married the wrong guy) - is having a small vial or bag with your own blood around at that time. It could solve a huge problem ! Just in case ...

Synnen · Mar 23, 2008, 04:41 PM

OH good lord.

You are a virgin if you haven't had sexual intercourse. Period.

If you HAVE to prove it, you're marrying an idiot anyway.

As far as having that "whole experience"--well, I don't know that having to break the hymen (painful) and bleed all over (messy) would exactly add to a romantic experience.

If it's there, great! If not, don't stress about it.

Fr_Chuck · Mar 23, 2008, 04:46 PM

If you are going to marry someone who does not beleive you, and have to get or have some "sign" you have the wrong guy. First it should not really matter if you love each other, and second if you love each other you will beleive in and trust the other.

Xrayman · Mar 24, 2008, 03:28 PM

oh brother...short answer-NO! you are still a virgin until you have penetrative sex-In the Vagina.



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