I have been in a serious relationship for almost 10 years with a wonderful man. He is loving and generous and loves me very much. Recently we have been talking about marriage and how we are going to go about it. Currently we do not live together and have never in the past, but we were thinking of moving in together in November.

In high school, before I met my current boyfriend, I had a major crush on his best friend. That never happened for me and I met my boyfriend and we have been together ever since.

I went out this last weekend and had a lot of fun with my bf's best friend which ended up carrying over into the bedroom. The only thing is that I think I enjoyed sex with his best friend better than the sex I have with my boyfriend. I also feel horrible about doing it.

Is this a sign that I'm not happy in my current relationship? Is this just a hiccup that i should forget about? I dont want to tell my boyfriend because it would cause a lot of unneccessary drama, or is it something he should know?

Jesushelper76

Your making it sound like it is not a big deal to have slept with your boyfriends best friend.

What you did is not right and nonchalant way of you telling your story.

You have betrayed your boyfriend. You boyfriends best friend betrayed him.

You TWO are meant for each other.

Move on and tell your boyfriend that you slept with his best friend. See how things go.

Fr_Chuck

well I guess if you have to cheat and have low morals , you may as well enjoy it.

hheath541

you definitely need to tell him. it doesn't matter how much you want to avoid 'unnecessary drama'. if you respect him at all you will tell him now instead of trying to hide it from him. things like that have a tendency to come back to bite you in the HARD when you try to bury them.

N0help4u

I wouldn't equate anything like that as a hiccup. You need to really stop and think about what would possess you to get carried away. It does mean that maybe you aren't taking the relationship serious enough.
Whatever you do you need to step back and reevaluate everything and DO NOT move in with your bf until you get it together about where everything stands with you.

bronzebabe

friend4u178

Are you serious............!!!!!!!!

If you are I hope your boyfriend finds out and dumps your non caring A55 , and then loses his so called best friend.

smoothy

Perhaps you can seek out his brother and father next. You already slept with his best friend.

I honestly think this is a sign you do not have the emotional maturity to be in a relationship yet.

I say this because if you ARE in a real relationship, you would know there are boundries you do NOT cross.

And his "best" friend is no real friend if he slept with you. Friends do not sleep with their friends partners.....PERIOD, EVER.

Thinking they are good looking...OK, thinking, damn if we were both free I could go for that....OK, but adults recognise there are some people you do not mess with for any reason. In case nobody ever taught you this, you do not sleep with relatives....spouses of relatives, or partners of friends.


Incidently, just how old are you?

ZoeMarie

Drama caused by sleeping with boyfriend's best friend? Necessary. You guys need to tell your boyfriend.

The fact that you slept with your boyfriend's best friend? Now that is what sounded unnecessary to me.

Rich11111

You should tell your boyfriend and hope for the best, he deserves to know before your relationship gets any more serious than it is. It's terrible that two of the people closest to him would betray him like this. The man isn't a friend of your boyfriend that's for sure.
I also agree with others that the way you wrote this makes it sound as though it isn't a big deal to you.

The fact that you enjoyed it more is most likely because it was new and exciting, nothing more. Or you could be one of those people who gets a thrill out of "being naughty,"