Hi everyone,

My girlfriend of one and a half year has stopped having sex with me. Before, we used to have sex about 2-3 times a week (we don't live together). At the same time she withdrew sex, she got off the birth control as she did not renew her prescription and said we'll have to use condoms. Still waiting to use that condom.

I've done a lot for this girl in the last month. Taking her out to the game, buying her dinner on a few occasions, dropping a lot of ILY's here and there, getting her flowers, surprising her before her going to work, thought I made her Christmas really special, etc. She just wants to go to bed and doesn't cuddle, kiss me anymore even though I try to do that. Making out is also out of the question because she fears it will lead to sex. It's not like I haven't talked to her about it, up until today I've brought it up every second day but she claims she has no sexual desires whatsoever. I am getting tired of this as all we do is bicker at each other even though I try calmly to approach her with the subject. She doesn't even want to talk about it. Nor does she want to talk on things that could be affecting her like her career or money or her self-esteem. She claims everything is "fine". But I sure do not feel the same. All I want to do is hold her and love her but it's been a complete brick wall. So I've backed off from doing nice things for her, trying to create romantic moods and by bringing up the subject... We'll see how it goes, but my patience is starting to run thin.

Help. I think this person is amazing for me but I have no idea why she just "shut off" after stopping the pill about a month ago. I really don't want to dump her because of this.