Hey Guys,
My girlfriend (22 / virgin), has pain when I try to finger her. She said it feels like she's bursting. This might be normal for a virgin, except she said this feeling began already when I just barely touched her: When she complained about this bursting-pain, I penetrated only her labia, but not her actual vagina (so I was probably in about 1 cm.). I pushed a little further but it was just too much for her, so that we had to stop it.

Is it normal that virgins are so extremely sensitive down there? It might play a role that she has never even masturbated before, and we have a very high level of trust, so I would assume that she told me the truth about that. Also, I think I felt her hymen.

IF this is normal, what I assume, how can I make it go away? Of course I want her to feel pleasure, and eventually have sex with her, but I wonder how that would work out, considering how sensitive she is. Isn't fingering the right way to get it started? Or is it better do deflorate her first and kind accept that its painful but get it over with quickly?

Thanks for some help.

Esus.