I've been dating this girl for 2 years now and when first started going out we were very sexually active, but since probably about 6 months in the strive on her part has disappeared. I feel horrible about myself because I love her but I'm not sure that she finds me attractive anymore. She tells me otherwise but her lack of wanting me for so long I guess has taken its toll. She's a great girl and she says that she has low libido which I believe is what makes women want sex, and I understand this but can't help feeling the way I do. Is it wrong to feel this way after so long? We have sex probably about once every month and a half to 3 months. Were both still very young I'm 19 and she's 20. And is there anything I can do to help this situation.

The thing that strikes me first is that you were both very sexually active with each other, apparently from the start of your relationship. And, that you appear to base having a relationship with someone on how attracted to you sexually they might be.

If you want a relationship with someone, there is much more to having and maintaining a relationship than having sex.

Have you tried speaking to her about what she might want concerning your relationship as compared to what you want. It's really very possible that she really might want more than sex in terms of having a relationship.

In order to help the situation that you are in concerning your relationship with her, I would A) Ask her what she wants out of your relationship. B) Be willing to give and take as far as needs and wants, if you want the relationship to continue.

Most people that have long-term relationships with each other, are based upon much more than having sex. Sex is just a part of the picture when you are younger. But, when you are older, so many other things come into the picture as far as making the relationship possibly lasting unto the decades of time.

Hopefully, others will also come along to address your post. Mine has just been one opinion based upon the experience of my life.

Hmm, well, it is extremely difficult to be young... young and inexperienced in the ways of life and the opposite sex.

You are going to have to go to a restaurant or other public place and have a *calm* discussion about where your relationship is going from her standpoint and from yours. You are going to have to focus on sexuality as well as goals, both long and short term. Not having more frequent sex is a deal-breaker; you need to have more sex in order to be healthy and happy.

I think you are going to have to be prepared for a bittersweet breakup... leave as friends, and grieve the loss of your dream.

Fortunately, there are many terrific girls out there to get to know and seduce. :)

LIfe is about building experiences upon experiences, the happy and the unhappy, as making through all that with a smile on your face makes for a really good adult.

Best wishes,
Live and Learn,