Hey guys, just really needed to get this off my chest and see if anyone has experienced the same probably or if someone could help with the situation with some useful advice.

Me (20) and my girlfriend (21) have been together a year now, we had a healthy sex life just as new couples usually do, up until roughly about 4 months ago the amount of sex we had was slowly declining, once a week, one a every two weeks etc.
About three weeks ago I came onto her only for her to force me away from her and repeatedly saying no, which hurt me like hell, unexpected you know. I haven't tried it since.
I have previously tried just sitting down with her and bringing up the subject but it's just like talking to a brick wall, I just get silly excuses like "I don't feel like it", "I'm tired" she never use to be too tired that she couldn't have sex and her life style hasn't changed in the slightest. She isn't or never has been on any medication, so that's ruled out. She seems fine, like there's not problem what so ever, everything is just the same as it was, just no sex. Which I can't figure out. She seems completely oblivious to how I feel about it, even though I've spoken to her about it.



I love this girl like crazy and she knows it, I have patience but now this much patience, I want our sex life back and I'm getting tired of waiting. Help would be greatly appreciated. Thanks

Is the change just in the bedroom or does she push you away at other times?

Have there been any changes at all? Maybe gaining a few pounds. A friend announcing an engagement or pregnancy. Change in birth control. A possible pregnancy scare. Etc.

I would almost ask about other signs of depression or something happening that you don't know about.

How is her work? Friends? Family? Any changes or stresses that may have built up over time?

This happened to me with my girlfriend I had for 3.5 years. The sex decline to about once a month even though we still spent a lot of time together. After speaking to my girlfriend about it she went on to explain that it just wasn't as fun or exciting anymore, same sex, even though we've done it multiple places/positions/speeds, etc. Just be careful because I found out the hard way that it was us moving on in life and falling out of love. We're still friends though, just moved and started to take different paths in life.

So there's a SLIGHT chance she could be falling out of love or having doubt about where she see's you two in the future. Talk to her and get a little deeper then just "how come no more sex". Women are more complicated in an intelligent/confusing sort of way.

Good luck to you friend.

Obvious case of "New meat" becoming "more of the same old stuff".

THe polish has worn off and that shiney new lamp you thought you got is just a tired old thrift store light with a worn cord.

Or you can say is the Lust is wearing off and you are seeing the other how they really are, and its not as appealing as you thought.

Contrary to what has been mentioned. You haven't known each other to ever have been in love yet, much less fall out of love. What you did have was lust... and you have fallen out of lust. HUGE difference between those two... but its hard for someone as young as you both are to recognise the differences.