Hey guys,just joined today. Ok recently me and my girlfriend of 4 years have been having sexually related issues in our relationship over the last few weeks. I'm 26 and she's about to be 24 in 9 days.

A couple of weeks ago she said that she needed a break from the relationship because she can't continue to give me sex. I knew that she hasn't really been into sex since around May of this year, but she's been giving it to me 2-3 times a week along with head once a week even though she doesn't be into it, so I got to bust 3-4 weeks with her which was fantastic. Recently though she said that it's gotten past the point of her not being into it, but having no problem giving it to me anyway, to really, really not liking it. She said that she hates sex atm. It's disgusting to her. She doesn't even want to think about it. She doesn't want to be touched, meaning no hugs, kisses etc. So she told me that she can't be with me for a while because she really can't give me what I need sexually. Of course I was distraught and all because we've been through so much over the last 4 years and I know that I truly love her.

My girlfriend stands about 5'7. Sexy chocolatey skin, huge adorable eyes, button nose and a great smile. Long flowing hair (they're tracks, but whatever), thin waist, thick thighs and a really, really nice, plump ***. Long legs, cute little hands and feet. Always smells good and tastes even better. Always dresses nice, she's a size 4 and walks around with skin tight jeans on, sexy boots, nice belts along with other accessories. Man she's the truth. Aside from her physical attributes though, she's really sweet and kind, has always proven to be faithful to me and is just an all around good chick. She has her flaws and all, but don't we all? Every day I'm excited to place my key in our door to unlock it and see her adorable, sexy self. And sex is just heaven even when she's not into it and even better when she is.

She was on the depo shot for 3 years. She's been off since mid 2010. I asked her to get off after I did some online searching and found some not so great news stories and info about the adverse effects that it can have on a woman's libido. It was mentioned that the shot would still need 10-12 months before it's completely flushed from a woman's system. It's been a good 12-15 months now since her last injection. I also read from some users that they're still experiencing a dead libido after being off the shot for 2-3 years :O

I just don't know what to do. She says that I'm a really good boyfriend, the best that she's ever had. She acknowledges how rare of a guy I am. I cook, clean, warm her car in the morning, I've been buying her a dozen roses every 2-3 weeks this year just to let her know that it doesn't have to be a holiday or her b-day to get her something nice. I always put her first no matter what. She has night classes after work on Mondays (she's trying to get her Master's) so on those days I run her a bubble bath with candles lit and cook for her or grab her favorite food so that after a long stressful day she can just instantly get in the tub, eat and go to sleep, I don't bother her for sex on Mondays because I know that's her busiest day. She started her first job in August, but due to financial obligations during college her checks are currently being garnished, so I told her that she doesn't have to pay her half of the utilities/rent until she gets her things straight. So I'm paying rent utilities my personal bills my mom's utilities (because she can't afford to pay hers). I'm not a balla by any means, but I have a really good job and I juggle bills and budget my money to take care of every thing. So with all of those responsibilities that I have, being able to share such an intimate and extremely pleasurable experience of having sex with this damn goddess makes my life so much better *sigh.

I've done so much for this chick over our last 4 years together. I just don't get why she hates sex now? Even if it is the depo shot, I don't understand why she just can't make herself give herself to me sexually? I do things ALL THE TIME that I don't necessarily like or want to do, but I just shut up and do what I have to do, that's my mentality. She used to LOVE sex for crying out loud! When she's into it, 9 times out of 10 she's getting 2 orgasms. She used to love getting on top. When she's into it, she sings/screams in a high pitch and talks dirty, scratch my back while kissing my ears and sucking on my neck. She used to throw that plump *** back to me and work me over. She has swallowed me a few times before, let me give her a facial a few times, we've used ice and whipped cream before in our sessions. She's been into it to the point where she asked ME to handcuff her, blindfold her and record her while she gave me head! She's randomly pulled me out while I was driving and just started giving me head. We've pulled over at the park at night and almost died from a heat stroke going at it like animals with the windows up (because it was winter). So you see she's wild when she wants to be. She's the truth when she wants to be. But I guess she doesn't want to be anymore. I just don't get how so much passion can be there at 19, 20, 21 and 22, but just decides to jump off the cliff and commit suicide halfway through 23!

The last time that she was genuinely into sex was back in May and she gave me one of the best sex WEEKS of my life thus far. She took me in the bedroom, rode me until I was about to climax and then jumped off and just sucked it out. The next day she was so heated that I couldn't put her fire out. We had sex 3 times until I couldn't get up anymore and after that she begged me to touch her down there and kiss it for her, I did of course because I'm a man damnit! I was up until 4 in the morning trying to quench her sexual thirst and I had work the next day. I still wasn't able to put her fire out. So I mean it boggles my mind to go from all of the things that I just mentioned, the passion, the pornstar sex, the want to have me "give it to her rough"... we were away for about 6 weeks last summer and she was emailing bj porn to me and telling me how she's been watching tutorials on how to deep throat and that she knows how to give a better bj :/ That's my girl, that's the chick that I fell for! Now I'm dating a post menopausal 42 year old woman

She says that she can't be my girlfriend atm because she doesn't want to be obligated to have to give me sex and head, but she jumped at the idea of us being together... if I can denounce sex for a while. I could if I knew the exact time like 2-3 weeks for example, but "a while" could be 2-3 months, maybe even a year or two. Can anyone make sense of this? I've been researching "women libido enhancers" and ran across Bee Pollen, False Unicorn Root, and some supplement called Vienue. I just want things to be back the way they were